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"Snowdonia: Up from Pen-y-Pass" by Tim Blessed. Used by permission, all rights reserved.

  

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A Source for Sanity
Acceptance and Difficult Others
Admitting Our Faults
Al-Anon Family Groups
Antidote for Stress, Part II (Step 11)

Acceptance and Difficult Others 4/21/11   (6)

Acceptance: The Key to Serenity Does Not Mean Acceptance as We Know It

A Spiritual Awakening:  Part I  (Enjoying the Little Gifts Life Provides) 4/10/11

A Spiritual Awakening, What It Looks Like

Aim of All Guests of This Inn  

Alexander the Gray Part I,  My Dear Friend   (11)

Alexander Part II   6/7/11 (Last Days With a Bewhiskered Friend)

Alexander Part III  6/8/11  (Lessons Learned From a Semi-paralyzed Cat)

Alexander Part IV  6/9/11  (Experiencing Loss)

Alone, Enjoying Serenity (15)
Authenticity: Expressing Our True Selves
Authenticity, Needed for Depth and Healthy Relationships: How We Get It

A Big Part of Being an Adult---Saying No

A Birthday Letter to My Oldest Son

An Un-American Concept

Antidote to Stress: Not Being in HALT ......................4/1/11

Apologies Require Specificity   (20)

Appreciating Life’s Gifts: Staying in the Moment

Appreciating the Differences of Others

Appreciating the Effort of My Sons, Creating New Legacies 
Are You Authentic or Controlling?
Attitude and Principles: Key Sources for Serenity  (25)
Authenticity vs. Being Controlling
Awareness: The Limburger Cheese of Life

Awareness, Acceptance and Action: The Three A’s that Allow Us To Get Stronger        (28) 

B

Bad News: Being Externally Referented
Balcony People 4/28/11 (30)
Balcony People 9/7/12

Balcony People: Our Supportive Network: We Grow Them: They Don’t Happen Over Night 10/30/11

Basking in the Kindness of Others. Not Going it Alone, Part II  (33)

Being Gentle When Expressing the Our Point of View

Being Gentle Towards Ourselves 1/30/12

Being Gentle Towards Ourselves, Especially the Hunchback of Notre Dame Within Part II 2/1/12

Being Judged: Not a Pleasant Experience
Being Our Authentic Selves
Boundaries: A List of Some of Mine  (38)
Boundaries: A Source for Equanimity
Boundaries: A Source for Personal Growth
Boundary Practice: Keeping Our Lives Safe
Buddy of Mine   (41)

C

Calmness In the Eye of the Storm: Not Overcome by Anger 3/16/11

Calmness In theEye of the Emotional Storm, Part II 8/27/12 

Calmness In the Eye of the Emotional Storm, Part III 7-2-13

Calmness In the Eye of the Emotional Storm, Part IV: Flying Instrument Panel 7/24/13          (45)

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Celebrating Life 

Character Discernment: Necessary for Healthy Relationships

Character Discernment, Part IV, Freedom from Narcissists (49)

Codependency:Attached to Unhealthy Relationships, and Why  

Codependency The Source of It: An Overview             

Communicating More Clearly  (52) 

Compassion: Focusing on Our Loved One's Feelings and Needs 4/10/11

Compassionate Communication: Connecting With The Feelings of Others, Even With Those Who Are Difficult   (54)

Connecting With God---Being Judged By Others

Contentment Is An Inside Job   
Control: A Shallow Way to Live: Motivated By Fear

Courage Faces Fear and Thereby Masters It

Courage Faces Fear and Thereby Masters It  Part II  (59)

Courage Faces Fear and  Thereby Masters It Part III (Overcoming the Tyranny of Other People’s Feelings  (60)

Creating a Better Today

D

Dealing w With an Emotional Bully, Part I, 13/14/11

Dealing with An Emotional Bully, Part II

Dealing With an Emotional Bully, Part III  (64)

Dealing with Disappointment Part I  4/15/11 

Dealing with Disappointment Part II 5/17/11   (66)

Dealing With Disappointment, Part III

Dealing With Insensitive People, Also Known As Rudeness

Defensive Hope, Not a Good Deal, It Ensures Disappointment

The Demon of Denial  (70)

Detaching: A Source For Serenity When Relating With Difficult Others

The Difference Between Being Denial and Being Unaware---A Big Difference  (72)
Difficult Circumstances: Coping During Dark Times

Disappointed, Being Challenged, Yet Moving Forward  

Disappointed, Being Challenged, Yet Moving Forward Part II   
Dodging a Raging Bull: Handling the Anger of Another

Do You Know What It Means if We are Too Busy?  (76)

Don’t Give Sympathy

E

Emotional Aikido
Emotional Vampires
Emotional Vampires: Freedom From Their Power   (80)

Empathy: A Doorway to Stronger Connection

Exercising Spiritual Disciplines
Expressing Feelings   5/20/11                            

Expressing Feelings. Life is Our Spiritual Practice ....... 5/3/11  (84)
Expressing Our Needs

Expressing Our Voice: Part I (Great Antidote to Depression) 4/1/11

Expressing Our Voice: Part II (Not Being A Conversational Doormat) 4/7/11

Expressing Our Voice, Part III   What Concerns Us 5/11 (88)

Expressing Our Voice: Part IV  Another Antidote for Depression 8/2/11

Expressing Our Voice,  Part V (Personal Growth is Placing Principles Above Our Personality)  (90)

Expressing Our Voice, Part  VI (Being Gentle When Doing So)  11/8/11
External Referenting: The Slippery Slope, Guaranteeing Depression
External Referenting, Part II, Freedom From It Provides Better Perspective
Extricating Ourselves From Enmeshing Legacies

F

Facing Unsatisfactory Circumstances  

Finding Balance During a Busy Month  (96)

Forgiveness, the Bolt Cutter From the Handcuffs of Resentment
Freedom From a Narcissist

Freedom from Bitterness 

Freedom From Codependency: Not Pleasing Unpleasant People
Freedom From False Fantasies

Freedom From Other People’s Judgments: An Overview of Codependency  (100)

Freedom from the Tyranny of Other People's Feelings

Frustration Happens  (102)

G

Getting Support During Crisis: The Value of Balcony People     

Getting What We Want: Going Beyond Disappointment  (104)

Getting Wholeness: What Step that Helps: Speaking With Healthy Others

Getting Off the Hamster Wheel 

Getting Through the Day  

God Does the Work: All We Have to Do Is Ask 

God Is Not My Spiritual Bellboy  (109)

Grace: No Point in Kicking Ourselves

God, Not Gadgets

Great Works are Accomplished by Perseverance, Rather Than Strength

Growing In Character Discernment  (113)

Guarding Our Emotional Sobriety

H

Handling Stress and an Emotional Bully ....3/14/11  
Handling Verbal Tennis               

Happiness is a Choice  (117)

Happiness is a Choice Part II  7/16/11

Happiness is Where I Choose to Focus

Having a Quiet Time

Having A Spiritual Awakening
Healthy Relationships: What They Are Made Of

Having A Spiritual Awakening, Part II  (122)

He Who Has Friends Must Show Himself Friendly   
Honesty In Relationships                        

Hope During Dark Times 3/29/11

Hope During Dark Times Part II 4/10/11  (125) 

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  I'm a Little Busy: Alexander is Dying, Perhaps Today  

  Incremental Growth: Results Happen, Just At a Different Pace
 The Instrument Panel of Guiding Principles
  Intimacy: Its Source

It’s Never My Responsibility To…..  

Last Days Spent with a Bewhiskered Friend  (130)
Leaves Without Roots, Form Without Substance

Lessons Learned from Robert E. Lee  (131)

Letting Go   

Life Affirming Relationships, How We Get Them   (133)

Life Is Not a Correspondence Program (Staying in the Solution & Creating Our Community)

Life Is Our Spiritual Practice  (135)

Life With An Emotional Bully

Looking Beneath the Behavior of Others: Better Than Judging Them

M

Maintaining Our Serenity In the Face of Disappointment  (138)

Maintaining a Solid Stance. "Beware of the Rude Manipulator" .....10/11/11   

Maintaining Our Values In Spite of Pressures from Others (Having our own voice) 6/28/11 

Making Amends

Making Memories, a Surprise Waited For Me

Marks of a Spiritual Awakening  (143)

Meeting a New Friend: She Was Naked at the Time

More Drama Than a Movie  (145)

Moving Forward 9/28/11
Must Haves and Can't Stands

My Character Determines My Destiny

N-O

Nonviolent Communication: Best Way Getting Needs Met. Part I (A Tale of Two Approaches) 4/8/11  (149)

Nonviolent Communication  Part II  8/2/11

Not Allowing Others to Determine Our Moods or Define Who We Are (Getting Healthier by Being Internally Referented.) ........6/1/11  Part I  (151)

Not Allowing Others to Determine Our Moods,  Part II

Not Alone While Weathering an Emotional Storm  (153)

Not Being a Processionary Caterpillar, Having a Spiritual Awakening 

Not Being Had: Moving Beyond History, Abuse and Disappointment

Not Being Triggered by Others---Standing For Our Values

Not Lone Rangering Life  Part I

Not “Lone Rangering” Life Part II

Not Taking Things Personally  (159)

Not Responsible for Other People's Disappointment

Opportunities for Spiritual Weight Lifting Part III Expressing Our Voice 6/23/11

Our Ideal Self Isn't: Awareness of This Fact is a Big Step Towards Taking Care of Self  (162)

Our Mindset Makes a Difference

Out of the Hamster Wheel, Into God's Hands
Overcoming Abuse

Overcoming Depression: One Source  (165)

P-R

Parading the Elephant: Expressing What Bothers Us

Perfectionism, Procrastination and Paralysis: It’s Antidote

Perseverance: Needed For Success  (168)

Perspective  Determines Our Success

Passing a Special Milestone

Practicing Boundaries Pays Off   (171)

Persistence, Patience, Practice and Perseverance: Progress 3/21/11

Persistence, Patience, Practice Part II  (160)

Placing Principles Above Personality Part I (Dealing with An Emotional Bully) 

Placing Principles Above Personality Part II    (Still Learning)

Placing Principles Above Personality Part III  (Courage Faces Fear) (176)

Placing Principles Above Personality Part IV  (Being Responsive to, But Not For, the Feelings of others----The Need for Boundaries.) 7/19/11

The Problem of Going it Alone—Not “Lone Rangering” It  Part II

The Problem Lies Beneath Our Nose 

Progress Not Perf3cktion 

  Recovery Defined (See the second half)
Reflecting On Gratitudes (181)
Relating vs. Being Controlling

Resentment: Freedom From 

Resiliency: Embracing Negative Reality   

Responding, Not Reacting, Part I, Calmness In the Eye of the Emotional Storm                                

Restoring My Soul: Spending Time with Healthy Others
Retiring The Cape

Rudeness: Experiencing It  (187)

S

Second Time I Saw a Friend Since She Went Over A Cliff

Seeing My Son Soar   (189)

Serenity: A Key Part to Having It 

Serving Others: How It Benefits Us 

Sharing Our Secrets: With Whom

Slaying the Dragon of Fear  

A Special Thanks to a Special Woman

Slowing Down; Inspecting Removing Spinning Plates  (195)

A Spiritual Awakening  Part I  (Appreciating  the Wonders of Life) 4/10/11

A Spiritual Awakening, What It Looks Like Part II  4/28/11  

Spiritual Awakening Part III

Spiritual Weightlifting Part III  6/23/11

Spiritual Weightlifting Part IV 6/25/11 (Principles that help us do so) (200)

Still Learning 

Stress: Remedies for Getting Through the Day

Success: A Necessary Part, In Order to Enjoy It

Supporting Others: Celebrating Successes, Connecting with Their Feelings

Surrendering Our Happiness to Others  (205)

T

Taking Care of Self Part I   Looking at Our Options and Not Solely the Options of Others 4/7/11

Taking Care of Self Part II ----Storing Away for the Future  (207)

Taking Care of Self, Relationally, Practically and Professionally 7/11/11   

The Benefits of Being Gentle Towards Ourselves, Freedom from Depression
The Beauty of Vulnerability

The Comforting Presence of God’s Love

The Demon of Denial  (211)

The Grand Prix of Life 

The Innkeeper Met a New Friend, She Was Completely Undressed at the Time

The Innkeeper Sang and Armida’s Eyes Danced  

The Joy of Simple Pleasures

The Life Giving Power of Affirmation  (216)

The Miracle-Gro Quality Boundaries Have On Our Character        

The Need for Boundaries: Being Responsive To, But Not Responsible For Other People's Struggles 7/19/11  

The Source for Compassion

The Value of Not Being Passive  (220)

The Value of Having Emotionally Healthy Friends 

The Vision of this Inn

Trained to Be Externally Referented: A Good Way to Not Have Boundaries (223)

U-W

Understanding the Motivations of Others
We Are Not Responsible For Other People’s Disappointment: Overcoming Codependency      

We Want to Refrain From Judging Others: See Their Needs Instead

We Reveal Our Character With Every Breath We Take  (227)

We Are Spiritual Above All Else

What A Spiritual Awakening Looks Like

Winning the Grand Prix of Life

Why We Visit the Attitude of Gratitude Inn  (231)