"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble,
but it does empty today of its strength."
Staying In the Solution:
The quote above reminds us of the value of staying in the solution. Especially when we are troubled. What can be done? What are our options, given our circumstances?
Focusing----while relying upon God's strength and direction, and relating with our Balcony People-----on what can be done, is the best approach.
It's critical realizing there are alternatives.
We are not helpless, hopeless victims. Constant complaining only makes our problems larger. We only make them more disturbing. (Al-Anon Family Groups Inc. One Day At a Time, Virginia Beach, 75)
Staying present, is neither fearing nor pan-icking. It is diligently applying sound princi-ples. It's placing the slate stones of princi-ples above the weak parts of our personality.
They allow us to move forward towards a satisfying life. They help us to be surrounded by caring, supportive friends. These people are our Balcony People. When with them, we're less likely to be swal-lowed by the quicksand of despair and self-pity:
"Acting like a victim is a choice, not a destiny." Hope For Today, p. 189Life Is Not a Correspondence Program
Growth Occurs When We Are in Community With Others
I mentioned "working with the support of our Balcony People." Life is not a correspondence program. It's not a matter of reading helpful books, watching helpful programs on PBS and writing down our answers in a notebook that solves life difficulties. Nope, life isn't as simple as that.
Surrounding ourselves with emotionally and psychologically healthy others, is the way to go. These are people whose talk and walk are dynamic. They know serenity and sanity, even in the midst of life's trials.
These individuals thrive during difficult moments. They are known for their joy. No upside down smiles is found on their faces, for the most part. Positivity and resiliency are characteristic of those who succeed. People who move forward in their lives put their arms around negative reality.
We need psychological and emotional distance to be honest about our frailties. These issues are such a part of us, like our nose, that we don't notice them. Having Balcony People as a part of our personal community ensures growth. They ask us hard questions and keep us real.
It's easy rationalizing unacceptable behavior: "Well, everyone else does it..." "You didn't see that person...." "He made me angry...." Supportive, Balcony People don't enable us, they don't allow us to get away with denial, not taking responsibility for our actions.
Do we want to continue with habits that really don't serve us? I thought not."Open rebuke is greater than secret love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of the enemy are deceitful." Proverbs 27:5-6.
My Gratitudes:1. Removing clutter from my work is encouraging; I took care of details today. Doing so always provides more clarity regarding my office work.
2. I'm moving forward in my life. I'm working toward goals that will enable me to expand my business and allow me to work in a beautiful environment.
3. I saw several friends this evening. It's nice having consistency in my life. I see these friends almost every week.
4. I'm going to bed early tonight. I look forward to getting extra rest. I'm beat.
How About You?
How might God, or your Higher Power, want you to put your arms around negative reality, during this season in your life?
I'd love hearing your answers.Tim Blessed, used by permission