Sunday, April 1

Easter Revisited 4/1/17

      Good evening everyone,

 As with everything I write, please take what you like, leaving the rest.

     Easter is celebrated today.  I know the image is bunnies, pastel colors, and candy.  Originally this holiday---or holy day---is about the event that occurred after

Thursday, March 15

The Source for Serenity and Joy, Even During Difficult Times.............. ...................3/15/18

    Early this morning I had a moment of recovery.  Someone criticized me.  It was a positive experi-ence.  

     I was happy with my response. I stayed with the

Tuesday, March 13

A Special Day ...... 03/13/18

     Well, today is the day.

      Seven years ago, the doors to this inn opened.  A lot has happened since then.  Almost all of it, 97% good.

      Please join me in celebrating the seventh anniversary of this

Sunday, February 4

Why We Remain Miserable............ 2/4/18

        I am at so many crossroads.

     All of them are magnificently good.  Good afternoon, visitors to my inn. I wish you all the best.

     The best can only happen when we are present.  This is pos-sible when we are free of mind chatter and the need to please others.

Wednesday, January 31

The Strength and Authenticity We Have When We Move Beyond Codependency........................... 1/31/18

      Innkeeper's Note:  I am reposting the following. It is worth another read.  Let me know what you think.

     I'm thankful for peace of mind.  It happens when relating   with healthy people.  Calmness and sanity is ours when avoiding those who are unsafe.

     I was reminded of this second point at a restaurant. I witnessed a toxic parent.  He was in his thir-ties.

     He raised the hackles on the back of my neck.  His comments made my heart pound, like it hasn't, in years. Dark emotions from long ago revisited me, awakening the little Pablo within.  

Friday, January 26

The Benefits of Authenticity Revisited............. 1/26/18

      A long while ago, I wrote about authenticity, versus being controlling.  I'll say more, tonight.  Control patterns arise whenever we are fearful about being:

Monday, January 8

We Get What We Tolerate, We Can Say Our No As Gently as Our Yes 1/8/18

     Hi there, everyone.

Yes, I am alive.  Life is about priorities.  For the past several months I focused on my profession There is much related to it.

     I'm not com-plaining.  Far from it.  Every bit of it, including filing, writing pre and post-session notes I love.

Monday, December 25

My Favorite Christmas Story 12/25/17

Taken fromThe Christ Child, Illustrated
 by Miska and Maud Petersham 
     Merry Christmas.  That each guest of this inn had a lovely day, is my wish.  I did.

     What is Christmas?  Nope, it is not about gifts.  It is about one Gift, Christ.  This holiday is about God's incarnation, becoming a man.  This day celebrates His arrival.  He dwelt among us, full of grace and truth.  (John 1:14) I know for many this is an outdated concept.

      What Christmas gift can I offer?  How about

Friday, December 22

My Third Favorite Christmas Story 12/22/17

WWII photo of the Ardennes Forest
       Good evening, one and all. I hope life is treating you well. For many, this is a frantic, mater-ialistic season.       
         Needn't be so.  In the inn, we're having a countdown for the biggest day of this month.  For

Tuesday, December 19

Maintaining Our Sanity and Serenity During This Season 12/19/17

      Now is a good time to slow down.

       I know this is the opposite of what we experience while gearing up for Christmas.

      But, many of us need to process the holidays.  This time of year usually involves interacting with others. Often, it means encountering disturbing people, people frantic because the true message of this season has escaped them.

      Or many will visit with difficult relatives not seen any other time of the year.

       When with them, there can be the combustion of clashing person-alities.  Or unpleasant shared history creates friction, awkwardness.  These challenging aspects of the holiday season motivate us to make time.

       For ourselves.

       We need to grieve and apply the balm of re-covery.  It is impor-tant processing what barrages us, emotion-ally and physically.

       Feeling and processing neg-ative interactions is critical. It helps us maintain emo-tional balance, equanimity.

      As children, we may not have been allowed to mourn.  Being in touch with our feelings when disturbed is being present. It is what it means to be alive.  It is important for our sanity.

      It helps us overcome crazy-making times when relating with others who trigger us.

      When we stay in our head, we distance ourselves from what we experience.  When we feel, we are the experience.  We are in touch with what we want.

      We are our au-thentic selves.  When we do the opposite and present our arti-ficial selveswe experience what Ann Wil-son Schaef describes as "soul murder."  It leads to many ills, depression, isola-tion, self-loathing and many neuroses.

       What causes us to not be authentic?  Toxic shame.  We believe if we present our transparent selves, we will not be accepted, loved.  We fear being ridiculed for our values or having a different perspective.

       What is the antidote for shame?  Enjoying unconditional love and acceptance from the good company we keep.  These are our Balcony People.

My Gratitudes:
1.  For the ongoing growth of the happiness that fills my life.
2.  I am thankful for sleep.  It restores my mind and body.
3.  For fantastic conversations. They nurture me.  I love heart-to-heart authentic conversations.  They meet my need for connection, closeness, and transparency.

   Wishing you a terrific Tuesday.  I know mine will be. 

Quotes from the Posts

"I'm mindful that our thoughts affect the words we use, our words influence our actions, our actions shape our character and our character determines our destiny."

From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.

"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."

From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post
written. To read it, please click here.

"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
From the post: "Life Is Not a Correspondence Program." Click here to read it.

"Even though we cannot control our circumstances, we can control how we choose to respond to them."

From, "Handling Stress and Dealing With an Emotional Bully."Click here to read this post.

"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"

From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.