Wednesday, April 23

Charles and the Bowling Outing

    One Saturday, we went bowling at a place on the El Camino, in Redwood City.  Charles went too.   I'm pretty good with this sport, as I usually won at horseshoes since a kid and the tossing motion is very similar.

    The twelve residents, a fellow rehab worker, Nancy, and escaped from the monolithic three story mental health center.  Less people.  Smoke from cigarettes didn't permeate the air. Whew.

     I took a look from behind, as Charles played the game for the first time.  I shared some pointers with him.  He responded well.  Strike! Spare!  Wow.  He was both literally and figuratively on a roll.

    The next frame he did the same.  The group now cheered him on.  An experience he never knew.  I told the group that if they were a religious group we could call ourselves the Holy Rollers, with Charles as our leader.

      Then it happened, while Charles bowled.  Unexpected.  In a flash, the occasion abruptly changed.  Those near us, not from the hospital were horrified.  Transfixed on what they saw.

       There on the floor, laying on his side, quivering like a fish out of water, was Charles.  Having a seizure.  The excitement of his success, the cheering on by the rest of us, along with the impact of his medications resulted with him writhing on the polished hardwood floor. Right on alley number 19.

      Calmly, I called out to the fellow at the checkout booth. "Please call an ambulance."  I had the rest of the residents step away from their peer.  They understood. Their faces portrayed the compassion of those who have been in such a place themselves. Damn medications.

       The ambulance came forthwith.  The rest of the group was still stunned by the drama that took place on the El Camino Real.  We hopped back on the van.  I drove to the local pharmacy store.  While the co-leader stayed with the group I went inside, getting a get well card.

      The residents, the co-leader and I wrote our best wishes for him who had---until his body took over---been the star of the day.   God, I loved that guy.

      Turning the van around, we deposited the literary remains of our prayers and best thoughts at the hospital where he was taken.  Everyone felt better and we went to an ice cream parlor to round out our adventure on that beautiful spring day. 

Tuesday, April 22

The Story of Charles, Continued

             The story continues that began earlier this month.  This tale will take time.  But it needs telling.  Installments I'll use.


       When I met him, I didn't understand.  He walked around with a hand on the right corner of his head, where the edge of his forehead met his hairline.

       His hand pushed his head against his left shoulder, cocking it to one side.  With his head in this position, and a hand still placed on it,  he walked tentatively around the mental health center where I worked.  He had been a resident there for two years, when I began work there.  It is so many years ago, I will

Monday, April 21

Authenticity, The Stuff of Intimacy

    I am one happy guy.  Sunday was great.  Better than great.  Present, I was, free of expectations when spending time early in the morning with a loved one.  Former patterned ways I used to protect myself when younger were discarded.  Relating as I did gave me the strength to

Sunday, April 20

Ruminations On Easter and My Personal Resurrection


    Good evening,

How are you? As always, take what you like and leave the rest.

    What a lovely day today was.  I made time, reflecting upon the significance of Easter.  I spent it with loved ones and am glad for it.  It's amazing how holidays can evolve with time.
My Gratitudes for Today.
1. The message of Easter. Nope, it's not about

Saturday, April 19

Easter Is Not About Easter Bunnies.......... 4/19/14

      Good evening everyone,

 As with everything I write, please take what you like and leave the rest.

     Easter is fast approaching. I know the image of it, for many, is bunnies, pastel colors, and candy.  Originally this holiday---or holy day---was about the event that occurred after

Friday, April 18

Calmness In the Eye of the Storm, Part II, Revisited 4/18/14

     Innkeeper's note:  I'm bushed.  I'm bumping this up.  I wrote this last year.  Some of you were not acquainted with this inn, then. Here it is:                                                     

      The past few months have been inspiring, a time of characterological growth.  Its been a season where I've seen the value of

Wednesday, April 16

Relating, Being Present vs. Using Control 4/16/14

Happiness is not something you postpone for the future;
 it is something  you design for the present.   Jim Rohn. 
    Tonight's post is different.  It will give insight into my mind.  I have only done this once before, in my post a A Spiritual Awak-ening, Part II, where I posted an outline.

      The following is how I think.  As a teacher and public speaker for several decades, it's the format that works best for me.  The material below I use with many.  It was first birthed from work I do as

Resisting The Investment Necessary for Healing and Growth.............. ...................4/16/14

      Good morning.  This post reaches you earlier than normal.  The past week has been different.  I don't quite understand it all, but that is okay.  Reality is not limited to what I compre-hend nor is it necessarily based solely on my perceptions.

      I try making sense of what has been surfacing in my life lately.  To cope when living is a blur, I breathe deeply.  I do the next right step.  I connect with the

Sunday, April 13

Review of the Past Week: Highs and Lows. Let Me Hear From You ........... 4/13/14

       How are you?  This inn opened its doors 37 months ago, on this day.  This place is but a youngster.

        It is 1:44 a.m., Pacific Time, here, in California.  Earlier, I was busy, not posting at my usual time, just before the day changes its name.  For the last one-and-a half hours I supported a friend while she took

Saturday, April 12

Time With Family. Growing,Getting Lessoned, Not Lessened .......... 4/12/14

      I was tired all day, beginning when I awoke today.  My work depletes me, physically and emotionally, if I do not discharge the stress inherent in it.  In addition, I worked this afternoon, which has not happened in a long while.  On top of that I went to bed at 4:00 a.m., Friday, rising at 7:00 a.m.
      Today I reaped what I have sown, in terms of punishing my

Quotes from the Posts

"I'm mindful that our thoughts affect the words we use, our words influence our actions, our actions shape our character and our character determines our destiny."

From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.

"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."

From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post
written. To read it, please click here.

"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
From the post: "Life Is Not a Correspondence Program." Click here to read it.

"Even though we cannot control our circumstances, we can control how we choose to respond to them."

From, "Handling Stress and Dealing With an Emotional Bully."Click here to read this post.

"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"

From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.