Tuesday, September 16

Staying the Course, Even When Pushed By the Strong Winds of Many Demands

     "Morning by morning, new mercies I see, great is thy faithfulness, Lord unto me."
      I added three new clients to my practice, having sessions with them today. This was on top of the clients I already see  today.  I also booked four new clients to see me within the week.

      First sessions are the hardest. Today's clients were

Monday, September 15

Eighth Characteristic that Prevents Having A Healthy Relationship..... .................. 9/15/14

At this age it is okay, wearing a cape.  Any
 older, it isn't advised to be a constant rescuer
     We have looked at factors that make us choose unhealthy relationships. Next is number eight:


    Our need to fix others becomes our fix.  We binge on helping others as an alcoholic binges on drinking. The problem with this type of relationship is the lack of balance.  I frequently relate with people who expect me to be available at all times. When I cut off a

Saturday, September 13

The Seventh Characteristic That Prevents Having a Safe Relationship 9/13/14

      For the past week-and-a-half one theme here has been characteristics that prevent healthy relationships.  You can find the first three here.  The other three are in this post. The theme resumes tonight.

      The seventh characteristic inhibits having a safe relationship is

Friday, September 12

Taking Care of Myself............... 9/12/14

     Hello, I am grateful for those who post comments here. It means a lot to me.  I am burned out, after experiencing the most intense two weeks in years.  Heading I am, for

Thursday, September 11

Boundaries. Critical for Mental Health.... 9/11/14

       Boundaries.  They are a sanity saver and joy producer. I do not have boundaries for others to adhere to.  I have them so that I adhere to them.

        Without boundaries, life is

Enjoying a Moment of Spontaneity.... 9/11/14

Patience is priceless. Patience can only grow through experiences that test
 it. So we should treasure the times when our patience is tried, and not im-
patiently seek to be rescued prematurely. Makethe most of it. Realize that 
God has a purpose and a plan that will work out for our best. If we choose
 the path of patience and trust, we will not regret it
 (Photographer's caption.)
        Nowadays, I pretty much go with the flow, letting the day take me where it will.  I've my priorities.  But when monkey wrenches are thrown into the mix of the day, I accept them and adapt.  Part of having a Spiritual Awakening is

Tuesday, September 9

Six Characteristics to Avoid In Relationships, If You Want A Healthy One................. ....................9/9/14

One definition of discernment
      In this post, written last Thursday, I shared reasons why it is hard find Safe People, those who help us thrive and become better people. They were:
1.  Lacking Discernment.
2.  Not Knowing How to Connect.
3.  Fear of Abandonment. This is settling for less than is desirable.

     You can read the previous post in the link above, for more details on these three.  I will continue from there. The fourth reason is:

Sunday, September 7

Three Things Necessary to Release the Inner You.................. 9/7/14

As I am more comfortable with my wants,
dreams and desires, I am increasingly able
to risk the disapproval of others. We become
                internally, not externally referented. 
      I got home from San Francisco at 9:30 p.m.  Barely able to keep my eyes open.  I am emotionally and mentally spent. Not one penny of energy remains within the innkeeper.

      I cried once while doing a session.  That will do me in, physically.  But they were good, empathetic tears.  I also got choked up again, while

Friday, September 5

An Exhausted Innkeeper. Codependency, A Perceptional and Emotionally Depleting Disease............ ....................9/5/14

Being Codependent:

1.  We are externally referented. We do not trust our judgment. This places us in a childlike role when relating with others.  We need approval from others in order to know if something is right or not.
2.  We allow others to determine our moods. Growth takes place when we realize that nobody can make us feel happy, sad, angry or any other feeling without us giving them permission to

Thursday, September 4

Three Things That Prevent Finding Safe People---Those Who Can Be Our Supportive Network.... 9/4/14

Scotland: "Loch Linhe and Loch Eil from Ben Nevis"
By Tim Blessed.  Copyrighted photo, used by permission. 
Where Do We Find the Safe People We Need in Order to Thrive?

     When we are hurt by relation-ships, it usually isn't by chance.  Usually the common denominator in all of our unhealthy connections with others is ourselves.  Ouch.  It is easy blaming others.  Of course, there is nothing wrong with us----so we think. 

     Often, we do not see what gets in the way of evaluating others properly: our

Quotes from the Posts

"I'm mindful that our thoughts affect the words we use, our words influence our actions, our actions shape our character and our character determines our destiny."

From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.

"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."

From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post
written. To read it, please click here.

"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
From the post: "Life Is Not a Correspondence Program." Click here to read it.

"Even though we cannot control our circumstances, we can control how we choose to respond to them."

From, "Handling Stress and Dealing With an Emotional Bully."Click here to read this post.

"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"

From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.