Tuesday, March 19

How Are You?

       Hello everyone, how are you?

       You haven't heard from me of late.  I've been resting.  Work drains much from me, physically, emotionally and mentally.

       I have been recharging.  Presently, I'm still wiped out, even though most wouldn't notice. I'm still friendly and pleasant when relating to others, genuinely smiling at all times.

       I am happy with life.  But I am worn out, fatigued.  Dealing with a lot of trauma is traumatizing for me.

      Soon, something will put a bounce in my step.  I  look forward to it.  Can't wait.  Life will be more fun.

      I'm getting a sports car after not having one for several years.  Yaay!   Sunday, while test driving a sports car, I drove with a stick shift for the first time in 17 years.  No problems.

     No gears were ground, no stalling out. But it took awhile to get used to the responsiveness of the car.  The top of the convertible was down.

     Everyone afterwards could tell I was happy.  I had bugs in my teeth.

     Back to slowing down.   Over the past few months, I have been grabbing many of the plates spinning in my life.  Calmly seizing them, laying them aside.

     There is much to be said about a calm life.  We want to move away from living at 7,000 rpms of frenzied activity.  Better, slowing down to a calmer, 1,000 rpms.

     That happened, too, Sunday.  With a friend, we strolled through downtown Livermore on St. Paddy's Day.  It was hectic.  

     Inside the restaurants, everyone was jammed, elbow-to-elbow.   The crowd spilled from the eateries, many munching underneath umbrella-equipped tables placed on the sidewalks. 

     We opted for a quieter restaurant, a few blocks further away.  We visited while imbibing dark cherry soda instead of beer.  It was perfect. 

     We both were recovering from the previously week's intensity at work. There is more to life than increasing its speed.  Slowing down, not having my mind racing was a tonic for my soul

     Lately, I am making time for me, basking in simple pleasures.  Like going for walks.  Or studying inspiring material.

     I rather read ten words that lift me up, marinating in the thoughts they share. I let them shape my life and mind. I prefer this to reading two hundred pages, and not applying a single thought.

    We were not given information to increase our knowledge, but to change our lives.  This happens when we apply what we learn.

    Reducing life's pace provides us with the ease, peace of mind, and tranquility needed to take in the richness life offers and celebrating it.


   Celebrating is in order.  Quietly, on March 13th, this inn celebrated its anniversary.  I was busy, seeing several clients throughout the day.  I didn't have time to proclaim the occasion,   here.

    So busy was I, that I missed lunch and dinner.  I had no time change clothes before gathering with friends last Wednesday, after work.

    While still youthful, this inn is reaching an age of youngish maturity: it is 8 years old.
   What I've learned since opening the doors to this inn in 2011:

1. The great need to pause.  It helps me to address problems with recovery.  It allows us to overcome challenges.

     Slowing down restores our emotional and mental health.  Pausing invigorates us. Our life will healthier, happier and stronger.

     How so?   When confronted by life's challenges, pausing gives us the space to make better choices.  Without it, it is easy to react.

     When we stop and pause, we can make the time to show kindness towards the fears we face or the difficult problem staring at us.  Pausing is better than reacting, letting our limbic system get wonky.

      Pausing makes it more likely to see the needs beneath what ails us. This approach is preferred to being agitated when we are stung by life's difficulties, and unpleasant moments.

     Reacting is being the proverbial chicken with the head cut off.  When in that state, we are not our best self.

    There is more I'd like to share.  I'll have to do that later.  I right now, I have work to do.

     Thank you, for dropping by.  I'd love hearing your gratitudes!

Saturday, January 12

Me Again: A Thankful Innkeeper 1/12/19

      Hello everyone.  How are you?

      I will flesh out this post more, later.  First, I am spending time today, working on me.  For now, I'm making this a more robust year for this inn of positivity.

      I will submit more posts, like today, doing so soon, after submitting one recently.  The posts will arrive, even though work is ramping up.

     As the innkeeper, I am happy

Thursday, January 10

Calmness During a Difficult Time--- Enjoying Life Despite Trying Circumstances.................... ..... 1/10/19

     I have a few minutes before seeing a client at 1:15 p.m.  What could be better than saying hello to you, visitors of this positive place in cyberspace.

     This is my first chance to welcome you into this new year.  Thank you, for keeping

Friday, December 28

Getting Real, In a Gentle Way.... 12/28/18

Sometimes we yield to emotional people. We
want to have empathy, but we also want to be
     true to our values. 
        Good afternoon!
        It is a few minutes before seeing a client.  I wish you a terrific New Year.  It's coming soon.

        I am reflecting upon my experience this past Tuesday, Christmas Day.  I spent it with family.  I received saddening news.

       My response was heartening,  revealing

Monday, December 24

My Favorite Christmas Story 12/24/18

Taken fromThe Christ Child, Illustrated
 by Miska and Maud Petersham 
     Merry Christmas.  That each guest of this inn has a lovely day, on the twenty-fifth of this month is my wish.  I will.

     What is Christmas?  Nope, it is not about gifts.  It is about one Gift.

     This holiday is about God's incarnation.  He took on human form.  This day declares His arrival two millennia ago.

      He dwelt among us, full of grace and truth.  (John 1:14) I know for many this is an outdated concept.

      What Christmas gift can I offer?  How about

Friday, December 21

The Man and The Birds---My Second Favorite Christmas Story.................... 12/21/18

       If you missed the previous season-related tale, my third favorite, you can find it here.  
      I wrote the follow-ing in 2011.  You may not be familiar with it. 
      Wishing you a peaceful and happy Christmas,                         ThInnkeeper

     Gather round the fireplace warming the inn.  We may be frazzled by the call of Madison Avenue.  QVC and the Home Shopping Network may be assaulting us with gifts options for loved ones.  Commercials from Kohl's,

Wednesday, December 19

My Third Favorite Christmas Story 12/19/18

WWII photo of the Ardennes Forest
       Good evening, one and all. I hope life is treating you well. For many, this is a frantic, mater-ialistic season.       
         Needn't be so.  In the inn, we're having a countdown for the biggest day of this month.  For

Monday, December 17

An Angelic Visit to This Inn---Prepare Yourself For Having Your Breath Robbed From You .................. 12/17/18

      I am speechless. This video brings me to tears. The singer is Lexi.  She was fifteen when she performed this.

     You might want to slow down.  Allow your soul to drink in

Welcoming This Season Into This Inn of Gratitude 12/17/18

      I'm welcoming this Advent season.  Thank you, for dropping by.   I'm wishing you a time of serenity as we draw near to the date celebrating God taking on human form, more than 2,000 years ago.

      I find the enclosed music video calming, soothing. The deep resonance of the cello mixing well with the

Monday, December 3

Grieving Loss, Moving On

My first new poster
   How are you?

   I am suffering loss.  My trusty lap-top of eight years died.  Thousands of documents, much of what I use with clients are gone.

   Thousands of posters, my entire library is lost.

Quotes from the Posts

"I'm mindful that our thoughts affect the words we use, our words influence our actions, our actions shape our character and our character determines our destiny."

From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.

"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."

From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post
written. To read it, please click here.

"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
From the post: "Life Is Not a Correspondence Program." Click here to read it.

"Even though we cannot control our circumstances, we can control how we choose to respond to them."

From, "Handling Stress and Dealing With an Emotional Bully."Click here to read this post.

"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"

From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.