I am presenting this again, written four years ago, when this place was just a baby. The subject matter is still relevant: not getting triggered by abusive others. Maintaining our safety during roiling times. Let me know your thoughts.
I'm grateful for principles that allow me
to remain calm in the midst of a storm
It's important shel-tering ourselves, when overwhelmed by the crushing waves of abuse. This is also true when experiencing des-pair, frustration, self-loathing or the negative behavior of others, as was the case yesterday.
An instrumen-tal part of my growth is Al-Anon Family Groups, an amazing organization. It's been an emotional and mental life saver. For more about it, see the footnotes. As, always, take what you like and leave the rest.
It's easy surrendering our boundaries, becoming intimidated. This is a natural reaction when relating with an angry or manipulative individual. I no longer please unpleasant people, nor bear the burden of another's