one good leg. I'm grateful for your yeoman's effort!
Not having internet access at home has been enlightening. I enjoy being untethered, cybernetically. I'm getting re-acquainted with several of my trusted friends: books. My recent times with them have been marvelous---soothing, even.
The Strength Revealed Through Gentleness
Discernment Required, Though
I've been meaning to say something about emotions. In the limited time I have, I'll try. Anyone can be tough, what I call being a "walnut."
My image is the Marlboro Man, he's tough, grizzled, macho. Click here for an idea of what I mean. Yes, we can stay within the coffin of that tough and hard social exterior. But when we are in such a place, we will "laugh not all of our laughter, nor cry all of our tears." (Gibran, The Prophet.)
I counter that it requires strength being gentle. When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, where, others could stomp on us, if they chose to. But this is the place where intimacy is born----where we are known for who we really are----our friends become acquainted with our fears, as well as strengths, our dreams as well as the practical realities that make us who we are. The shadowy parts of us that lurk within are revealed in the safe environment of intimate friends who are emotionally mature.
Intimacy comes from two Greek words: in, which means "in," and timao, which means to fear or revere. Intimacy occurs when we can be within each other's fears and yet still know acceptance and support. I'm fortunate, I enjoy intimacy with my dear friends, my Balcony People.
The key here, is character discernment. We don't reveal ourselves to just anyone. Gradually, as we get acquainted with those we encounter, we discern their character. With those who value us, and are safe, we let them know the finer, hidden parts to us. For more about principles that allow us to have greater character discernment, please read here.
Being in touch with my feelings and expressing them gives me confidence and allows me to feel good about myself. As a child my feelings and needs were neglected----what was valued then were the needs of my parents. I love the joy I have because of the congruence I have between my actions and values. It's a great feeling, having integrity. If something bothers me, I speak up.
Learning nonviolent communication has taught me how to adhere to my values while still being kind and courteous towards those who see things differently. Am I glad.
How About You?
What are the qualities you look for in others, before you allow yourself to be vulnerable?
My Gratitudes for Today:
1. Good friends and a loving family. From them I am nurtured.
2. Good books. They help me to grow and learn
3. A great God. He's the source of my strength and hope.
Wishing you the best,