A friend of sever-al decades-----a Bal-cony Person in my life, and I lunched together. This is what we discussed. The freedom enjoy-ed when facing our vulnerabilities.More importantly, we talked about over-coming our weaknesses by replacing them with healthy alternatives. The following are a few suggestions:
I. If we're angry:
A. We can go for a walk
B. We can process it by writing about it in our journal.
C. Go to a local sports event and scream like the dickens.
It is a socially acceptable place to yell. Fans next to you will think you're amazingly fanatical. I have a dear friend in her 70's who does this. She goes to the Cal Berkeley basketball games.
D. We can listen to relaxing music, to decompress.
E. We can release our frustrations out by beating a pillow or throwing rocks in a body of water.
F. Anger reveals we're experiencing an unmet need. We can take action to resolve the unmet need by taking one step that allows us to empty out.
For example, say that we're with someone who is judgmental. And we're uncomfortable with their put-downs or how they blame us for their problems without taking responsibility. We can excuse ourselves:
"I'm sorry, but I have to go. I have something pressing that I need to do."
Do not associate with a man given to anger; or go with a hot-tempered man, or you will learn his ways and find a snare for yourself.
Proverbs 22:24-25It's necessary if we want serenity. If we want to reduce the level of drama in our lives. One source for sanity is being responsive to, but not responsible for the feelings of others.
II. If we're isolating, we can:
A. Call a friend, see how they are doing. If we want to have friend, we need to be one.
B. We can go to a movie with someone. We are connecting with others. Not only the friend but the community of others watching the film with us. It's a step.
C. We arrange a time to have lunch with someone special.
III.. If' feeling blue, we can:
A. Go for a hike in nature. It lifts the spirit for many.
B. Listen to music we like.
C. Workout at the gym. You probably know hard exercise produces endorphins, which are great for our moods.
D. For some, chocolate does the trick, it has serotonin.
The above are a few examples of healthy alternatives. You probably can add more. You get the idea.
We may not have control over our circumstances but we do have control over how we choose to respond to them. We have many op-tions, healthy ones that are life affirming. Difficult times remind me of the following quote:
When we make healthy choices and take action towards solving our problems we'll find ourselves happier. Life will be more sane. We'll enjoy life more. We'll also have an atti-tude of gratitude because we're making the most out of our lives. We are also creating a better today.
How About You?
1. What are some additional alternatives that you find to anger, isolating, depression?
2. What is one step you'd like to take today, that will move you towards the solution of your particular challenge?
Here's to encouraging one another,
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