The Benefits of Being Gentle Towards Ourselves
I'm thankful for difficult times. They allow me to practice patience. Especially towards myself. My younger self was more driven than I am now, I'm a strongly motivated person right now. You can imagine how intense I was, back in the day.
My drive as a young man was due to insecurities. I needed approval. Now, I'm less of a circus dog. No longer do I jump through hoops. No longer do I have the need to impress.
I am at peace with myself. I know I'm loved. I am aware I am lovable. This self-knowledge removes a big chunk of the edgy self that once defined me. Hurray!
When aware of areas needing improvement, acceptance is important. We want to handle our weaknesses graciously. They are not viewed with despair. Considering options, what we can do is critical. It is important being gentle towards ourselves.
Kindness towards self helps. "Condemning my imperfections has never enhanced my appreciation of life or helped me to love myself more." Courage to Change, p. 9. We want to review the past month, six months or year, appreciating the progress made. Being patient towards areas where we need to grow, is a better option than kicking ourselves.
We want to be kind towards our vulnerabilities. Healing and transformation is more likely. Harshness towards our warty selves, often makes these areas retreat and hide. When that happens, there's no chance for improvement.
Being gracious towards me has these benefits, too:
1. I'm happier.
2. Depression ceases; condemning self becomes less frequent.
"Condemning my imperfections has never enhanced my appreciation of life nor has it helped me to love myself more."
3. I bask in the joy of having an Attitude of Gratitude.Courage to Change, page 19.
4. As I've become gentler towards myself, I'm softer, kinder, towards others. It's hard giving what we have not received.
Please, let me hear your thoughts on this subject,