My Gratitudes:
1. Someone wanted me to be responsible for his feelings. No can do. I let him know. I am responsive to, but not responsible for the feelings of others.
2. When we assume the responsibility for the feelings of others, we are trapped in a form of enslavement.
We'll believe we need to walk around on egg shells, because we don't know what other possible negative feelings they may have, with whatever we say or do. We are accepting a fallacy.
We are not creating problems, when we are being ourselves, expressing our views or differing with others. There's no need for placating people. If others are upset, we can empathize, but their feelings are their responsibility. People will not always get what they want. They will have to work at getting their needs met.
I'm thankful knowing that feeling responsible for the disappointment of others is a serious boundary crossing.
3. I'm thankful that no one can make any human happy, sad, or have any other feeling without that person giving them permission to do so. Our feelings our our property. It reminds me of the saying:
Oh yeah, there's a word for the enslavement I talk about in gratitudes one and two: codependency.
1. Someone wanted me to be responsible for his feelings. No can do. I let him know. I am responsive to, but not responsible for the feelings of others.
2. When we assume the responsibility for the feelings of others, we are trapped in a form of enslavement.
We'll believe we need to walk around on egg shells, because we don't know what other possible negative feelings they may have, with whatever we say or do. We are accepting a fallacy.
We are not creating problems, when we are being ourselves, expressing our views or differing with others. There's no need for placating people. If others are upset, we can empathize, but their feelings are their responsibility. People will not always get what they want. They will have to work at getting their needs met.
I'm thankful knowing that feeling responsible for the disappointment of others is a serious boundary crossing.
3. I'm thankful that no one can make any human happy, sad, or have any other feeling without that person giving them permission to do so. Our feelings our our property. It reminds me of the saying:
4. Life is good. I know a loving God, I have loving, caring friends and family. How could I not be happy?"I block my well being every time I base my self-worth on what I do or what other people think of me. Courage to Change, 118
Oh yeah, there's a word for the enslavement I talk about in gratitudes one and two: codependency.
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