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| “The six most important words: 'I admit I made a mistake.' The five most important words: 'You did a good job.' The four most important words: 'What is your opinion?' The three most impor- tant words: 'If you please.' The two most important words: 'Thank You.' The one most important word: 'We.' The least important word: 'I.' ” Author Unknown Image: The California coast: Point Reyes I call this quote the Chalice of Perspective |
They allow us to practice patience. Especially towards ourselves. Many of us were driven in our younger years.
Frequently, our drive was prompt-ed by insecurities. We wanted approval. Now, we no longer need to be a circus dog, jumping through hoops of achievement to impress others.
With recovery, we enjoy peace of mind.
We draw healthier people into our lives. Because we do, we experience unconditional love from people who are emotionally healthy. We discover we are lovable, for being ourselves.
This self-knowledge removes negative self-talk and emotional fragility that once defined us. Hurray!
Such a self only motivates us to hide areas needing growth.
Kindness towards these vulnerable areas makes it likelier the darker areas of ourselves can be replaced with new and better qualities.
Gentle self-acceptance makes healing and transformation more likely. Harshness towards our warty selves, often makes these unpleasant areas retreat and hide. When that happens, there's no chance for improvement.
Being gracious towards ourselves has these benefits, too:
1. We're happier.
2. Depression ceases; condemning self becomes less frequent.
"Condemning my imper-fections has never enhanced my appreciation of life nor helped me to love myself more."
3. As we become gentler towards ourselves, we're softer, kinder, towards others. It's hard giving what we have not received.Courage to Change, page 19.
The Innkeeper
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