Sunday, November 27

It Is Never My Responsibility To 11/27/11

"Amidst the constant turmoil and drama that surrounds us, as we live life, many
stop noticing what is going on with themselves.  Something more important and 
life threatening always seems to intervene.  When we acknowledge a situation as
 it is, we want look at our options instead of looking at the options available to
other people."   Courage to Change, p.359

The following are general principles from Al-Anon Family Groups. I'm sure they
 will help when trying to figure out our responsibility in our relationships with others. 

It Is Never My Responsibility To: 
ive what I really don’t want to give
Sacrifice my integrity to anyone
Do more than I have time to do
Drain my strength for others
Listen to unwise counsel
Remain in an unfair relationship
Be anyone but exactly who I am
Conform to unreasonable demands
Be 100% perfect
Follow the crowd
Please unpleasant people
             Bear the burden of another’s misbehavior
Do something I really cannot do
Endure my own negative thoughts
Feel guilty towards my inner desires
Submit to overbearing conditions
             Apologize for being myself
Meekly let life pass me by


Carl H said...

Hello Pablo,

Great message for me and others.

Will pass along soon.

All the very best,


Pablo said...


It's great seeing you here. I hope this post helps clarify boundaries you may want to consider. These values added immensely to my serenity.

This post reminds me that it is critical to not only think of others. We also need to consider our needs.

Thanks for your feedback!

Anonymous said...

I've tried to write but my heart is not speaking. it may take time to express myself and feel safe. This is a beginning for me as best I can do for the time being.

Pablo said...


I didn't catch this post until now, it being tucked away in an older post.

I don't quite understand your comment about your heart not speaking. Thank you for your comment, nonetheless.

I hope you are doing well

The Innkeeper

LAg said...

This is a great quote and reminder of how I should llive my life every day, especially since it's so easy for me to neglect myself ....Thsnks for your posts... I appreciate your blog.

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