Boundaries: A Source for Sanity
There are times when we are with a controlling person.
That presents a problem. It in-trudes upon our need for autonomy. Being the gratitude guy, a difficult relationship is seen as an oppor-tunity to adhere to principles.
Time with those who cramp our style is like practicing a tennis stroke by hitting a ball against a wall. We have opportunities to exer-cise boundaries related to their behavior. It helps us maintain sereni-ty, sanity, and dignity----just barely.
un-safe person can be won-derful, providing the balance needed.
Bound-aries are not for others to adhere to. They are for us to adhere to. They are sanity savers, joy producers. They provide the dignity we need.
Often, we relate with with boundaryless people.
Chaos is the measure of their lives. Their lack of preparation does not make their crises our emergencies. (See here, too.) Even when they desperately wants us to rescue them. Exercising boundaries with those who lack them, maintains our sanity.
natural conse-quences of their behavior or lack of initiative.
Is there some-one or a situation that teeters your totter? Could an in-dividual dump you into the morass of frustration? How do you handle tough times?
We must never forget that we may also find meaning in life even when confronted with a hopeless situation, when facing a fate that cannot be changed. For what then matters is to bear witness to the uniquely human potential at its best, which is to transform a per-sonal tragedy into a triumph, to turn one's predicament into a human achievement.
When we are no longer able to change a situation---just think of an incurable disease such as in-operable cancer---we are chal-lenged to change ourselves. Viktor Frankl
1. Receiving practical support this week.
Beyond my wildest dreams. Those in my supportive network emboldened me with their encouragement and wisdom.
2. Love from many gave us a strength we won't have, if we go it alone.
The compassion, empathy, fellowship and sensitivity I've experienced gave hope during a most difficult season. It has been one of the most difficult times in my life.
I was stunned by the outpouring of affection received. It gave a bounce to my step that was missing earlier this month.
Loved ones and friends, visited. Phone calls and acts of loving service ministered to my well-being in ways beyond imagining. Their loving concern lifted my spirit.
3. I'm adding new dimensions to work I do. I participating in my growth. Good for me! I'm thankful for opportunities that are expanding my creativity and resourcefulness.
4. I have a business mentor. His help has been like a steady lighthouse in the midst of a storm.