Two are better than one, for they have a rich reward for
their labor, if one falls, he has another to lift him up. But woe to
him that is alone when he falls, for has not another to lift him up.
Balcony People Undergird, Preventing Me From Falling
Receiving amazing---beyond belief---support infuses energy into this weary soul recovering from the demands of urban life. As I type, a major, but scarey, area I am confronting. Small, but significant victories, are popping up, in the process. Little foxes of worry can ruin the
vineyard of life. By exercising discipline---placing principles above my personality---these critters are being captured, returned to their natural habitat, which is far away from me. I'm enjoying greater sanity; no longer am I being disturbed by vulpine terror.
The Antidote for Despair
What has been the antidote, you ask? Why, it's been loving letters from friends, receiving encouraging phone calls, getting empathy, not judgment from my supportive network. I feel better, not worse, after spending time with dear ones. When needed, they drop everything to be with me. Those in the circle of my life create a bridge of hope, allowing me to cross a chasm of despair.
Not operating alone is moving me forward. Confronting the day's drama, one day at time (sometimes fifteen minutes at a time) has been my lot, the past two weeks. My Balcony People are sticking with me. Am I grateful. They lift me up from the floor, after being sucker punched by the vicissitudes of life. This wouldn't be the case if I lived in isolation.
Learning from their experience, strength and hope, prodded by their smiles, wisdom and compassion provides the community required for any semblance of serenity. They, my Balcony People, right now, are carrying me. With the arms of their support holding me upright, I'm placing one stumbling foot in front of the other. Sharing their experience, strength and hope has been a dawn star, guiding me through this dark night of my soul. You can read here, for more information about this source of support.
1. I am fortunate to have Balcony People.
2. I'll meet with two consultants Saturday, part of my business team. Our session will challenge me, increasing my competence.
3. I had a wonderful conversation with my youngest son. Connecting with others who love me is an ointment that heals the emotional bruises I've accumulated the past few weeks.
4. This week, I faced an unpleasant task I've been avoiding.
While addressing daunting issues, I've taken care one of the most important persons in my life---me. During this emotionally perilous time I took necessary steps to treat myself with compassion.
This meant having my Quiet Time, eating healthy meals, exercising, and sleeping well. Listening to favorite music, being with friends and making time for fun (even if I don't feel like it) were the order of the day. Such action is vital, when facing distasteful circumstances.
5. I visited with a friend. He's directing work my way. That is always a good thing. Ya ay!
Using Character Discernment
I recently got clarity regarding someone I thought was a friend. I was wrong. I'm thankful that my character discernment remains healthy. My Pablo piper people picker is not broken. Am I glad.
I'm not interested in defensive hope. It wastes time, creates misery and frustration, in relationships. What I learned about this almost friend helps me make better use of time. Reciprocity is one thing I look for in and count on in my relationships. It wasn't there, with him.
I've stated this before, one sign of an abusive relationship is a lack of mutuality, equality and reciprocity. If a relationship does not have these qualities, we are being used, folks.
6. I'm thankful for healthy relationships, the result of placing principles before my attachment with anyone.
Today, I acknowledged areas where I offended someone. The harm I caused wasn't deliberate, I was misunderstood. Nonetheless, making amends is a practical way to restore a damaged relationship. I want to be sensitive to his perception of reality. Empathy does not mean agreement.
How the offended person responds to my amends is not the issue. I make them not for his sake, but mine. They prevent the relationship from being weighed down by tension and hurt feelings.
I learned plenty about unpleasantness, growing up. I don't care to experience more of it in this relationship. I especially want to keep my life as emotionally clean as possible, while going through stress.
How About You?
1. How have you received support this week?
2. Has there been an area in your life where you are experiencing more clarity?
3. Are there any amends you need to make?