Friday, August 19

The Problem Lies Beneath Our Nose: Awareness, the First Step Towards Progress .........................8/19/11

Stinky stuff
      How you be?  Yesterday was a humdinger of a day, but good.  Life has been rich and full this week.  I thank God for how He works in our lives.

         This week, I've witnessed a person in denial.  That doesn't mean a river in Egypt.  Being unaware of our character issues is understandable.

         Denial isn't that.  For more on this distinction, please read here.  It's active opposition to issues that require change, either in our thinking or both.

         I've observed this person, who----due to childhood abuse-----is critical by nature, judgmental.

        She uses cutting, derogatory comments towards those who differ with her.  The problem is always with the other person.  Recently she's been called on this issue.

        Her response?  Making like a cat and fleeing for her part in the problems she has with others.  (Did you like my sly reference to cats and fleas?)  For her, leaving solves everything.

        It remedies nothing.

       The results of her derision, judgment of others and lack of courtesy follows her.  She lives a lonely existence without knowing a loving and supportive community. Her situation reminds me of the following lines by Edgar Guest: 
Like calls to like, we are met by the traits we show
Where love will find a friend, hate will find a foe.
You'll have to use your imagination, to follow the story. You'll want
to combine the first picture with this one, to get the proper image.
     Her  actions reminds me of a story by John Maxwell in Winning Attitude (Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1993).  My retelling:

     A father fell asleep on the family couch.

    The missus and kids had fun while he was zonked out.  Limburger cheese was rubbed under his nose.  It was mashed into his mustache.

     He awakes with a start.

     He sniffs.  "This living room stinks," he says.  To the kitchen he goes, wanting coffee to arouse him in a better fashion.

  Pouring a cup of Joe, the foul odor attacks him, once again. Shaking his head he mutters, "Wow, this kitchen stinks."
 
    Plagued by the smell, he seeks relief outside.  He ambles to the front porch of his country home.  Gazing upon the orchards, he inhales deeply.

   He gags, confronted by the strong, foul odor.  Not aware of the source, he roars, "That settles it, the whole world stinks!"

   Of course the problem was right under his nose.

   Please, have a great and grateful weekend.

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Quotes from the Posts

"I'm mindful that our thoughts affect the words we use, our words influence our actions, our actions shape our character and our character determines our destiny."

From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.

"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."

From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post
written. To read it, please click here.

"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
From the post: "Life Is Not a Correspondence Program." Click here to read it.

"Even though we cannot control our circumstances, we can control how we choose to respond to them."

From, "Handling Stress and Dealing With an Emotional Bully."Click here to read this post.

"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"

From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.

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