Wednesday, July 24

Attitude & Principles:Sources for Serenity During Tough Times 7/24/13

You'll notice my knees are not shaking. 
An Attitude Check

     How is your attitude?

      Like an airplane, is your attitude nose up, and climbing, or is it nose down, heading for a crash?

       Mine?  You know the answer.  Hopefully, it's one reason why you drop by.  The thing is, our disposition can be positive----even when times are dire.

       We can have a peace of mind that transcends our circumstances.

       During tough times, we can fly by the instrument panel of healthy principles.  It's best being guided by the rudder of a loving God.  We also set a stronger course in life when enjoying dynamic, positive, discerning, friends.  Having a sense of humor even when we are tried improves our attitude.

      Life flies smoothly when we are free from emotional vampires.  We don't let them consume us.

Growth: Moving Beyond Knowledge

       How can we have a smoother, more satisfying life?

       By eating slowly.  We become careful about what and how much we feed our mind.  Like eating food, it's best digesting what we learn, slowly.

       It takes a while for our brain to signal the stomach of our compre-hension.  After an hour of study, we usually have enough meaty information requiring exercise--- application.  Living what we learn prevents us from becoming mentally fat.

       Gobbling food leads to indigestion.  It contributes to packing more pounds than needed on our mortal coil.  The same holds true with learning.

        Personal growth is not a matter of stuffing our head with ideas.  Learning is more than how many pages are read.  It's about three things.  Applying, applying and applying.

        This is how unhelpful youthful patterns are overcome. This requires effort.

        Schools have taught us incorrectly.  True learning is not about acquiring more information.  Wisdom is using what we know.  Otherwise, what is the point for studying?

Changing Familial Legacies
 Overcoming Ingrained Characterological Patterns

      We want to recognize books were not given to increase our knowledge, but to improve our lives. That is the beginning of growth.  Ruminating upon what we learn, practicing it, making it a deliberate part of who we are---incarnating it---is far better.

     When difficulties arise, antidotes can help us triumph over today's or tomorrow's looming difficulties.

      Catastrophizing doesn't help.  Panicking doesn't either.  If that's where we find ourselves, we're forgetting life is never successful by isolating.

      Support from my Comfort Circle of emotionally healthy friends is the bug spray that wards off life's irritations. Without connecting with others, we suffer from the Second Law of Thermodynamics.  Our joy decays.

      Freaking out only makes problems worse, more disturbing.  Fear informs us we want to use recovery.  We want grace balancing any negativity we perceive.

      It is better, responding, not reacting.  It's easy condemning ourselves.  Many of us grew up with constant judgment.  Without recovery, it is easy using our default mode---allowing the fearful child within to fly the plane of our lives.

      A bad idea.

The Instrument Panel of Healthy Principles

      Being mindful of healthy principles, and living by them, allow the airplane of our life to fly straight, calmly, preventing our daily experiences from crashing into the sea of despair.
"If thy law [or healthy principles] had not been my delight, I would have perished in my affliction."    Psalms 119:92
Specific Dials On the Instrument Panel, You Ask?

     You want to know specific principles that help?  Okay.  Here's one:
"When I need the applause of others to feel good about myself, I give them power over my life." Another you ask? All right. How about this: "I block my well-being each time I base my self-worth on what I do or what others think of me."
        You are persistent.  I hear you asking for more.  You are gobbling up these principles like potato chips, although they are healthier.

        Fine. Here's another that provides serenity:
"Condemning my imperfections has never enhanced my appreciation of life nor has it helped me to love myself more."  You want more?  Here's a final one: "If you feel like a doormat, you need to get up off the floor." 
        If you use the instrument panel of principles, you'll fly straighter.  The buffeting storms of life will not through you off course.  You will arrive at a life filled with more serenity, emotional ease, and joy.

         Happy flying.

How About You? 
      Are you nose up or nose down?   Please share what state your attitude is in, and why.  


Carl H said...

On this Thursday night, I am grateful for;

1. An energizing six-mile bike ride yesterday on a balmy, temperate summer afternoon.

2. The guidance of my mentor last night on how to avoid care-taking, as I slowly go about making a searching and fearless moral inventory.

3. The profound atmosphere of trust (which has been nurtured over time) during our weekly circle of fellowship last night. I was moved and in awe of the multitude of personal stories of challenge, strength and hope shared with such vulnerability and candor. All lingered for some time connecting and basking in the afterglow of hope.

Pablo said...


Tell me, please, what can a person do to avoid care-taking? Your gratitudes get better with every week. What needs of yours are met when you attend this group? How has this group affected your perspective?

Quotes from the Posts

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From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.

"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."

From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post
written. To read it, please click here.

"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
From the post: "Life Is Not a Correspondence Program." Click here to read it.

"Even though we cannot control our circumstances, we can control how we choose to respond to them."

From, "Handling Stress and Dealing With an Emotional Bully."Click here to read this post.

"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"

From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.