Hi everyone, here I am again,
This is that special time when the day changes it's name. By now, you know this is when new entries for this inn of encouragement, reflection and thanks pour forth, fresh from the little dances my fingers do upon my keyboard.
Today, I got rest, publicly challenged a local writer, supped and spent time with my son.
My Gratitudes for Tuesday:
1. I got a normal evening of sleep. This has been difficult lately, something I'm working on. I'm thankful for balance in my life and a long-term perspective. I know I live more fully when I treat my body with the respect it deserves.
2. My community of friends is growing---the good news is that it's a continual upgrade. As I continue to grow, my taste in companions is refining. I'm happy that I'm relating with others who enjoy great discussions, challenge my mind, are considerate, spiritual, love nature, exercise, stay in the solution and have a sense of humor.
Someone wanted my support. She struggles with her past. After a brief conversation I realized she really doesn't want to move beyond her history. What a sad state that is. She's comfortable with moaning and groaning, not wanting to do the work necessary to see progress.
Too bad.
Coming to terms with our issues and letting go of them does not deny they've happened. But it allows us to put them where they belong---in our past. This allows us to move forward unencumbered by the weight of ancient emotions.
I prefer staying in the solution. Every time I use healthy alternative to overcome areas where I struggle, I allow myself to create a better today. Now, that's more like it! Don't you agree?
So, I gave this woman a pass.
It's important remembering that we want to care about, but not for others. Click here for more on that. Unfortunately, some people need to experience the consequences of self-sabotaging behavior before becoming motivated to move on, using more constructive ways to overcome their pain.
It helps being mindful that I am the average of the five people that I hang out with.
3. I had fun writing something in a local paper. I disagreed with a columnist. I held my ground. I stood against the sarcasm and judgment he had towards a public figure, Ozzie Guillen, the manager of the Miami Marlins baseball team.
He replied, publicly in the paper. I still disagree with his position. I find sarcasm is not necessary. It's better to state our needs than to indirectly get them at the expense of a person's dignity, by putting them down, calling them a moron. You can click on the link above to see my comments.
4. Time with my oldest son.
Wonderful, inspiring, happy and helped was I, during our time shared. At length we discussed his work. Afterwards, we did marketing work on my business, using his expertise.
Each time we're together, I see him pulling further and further into the realm of adulthood. His life is intense, he's excelling in his career and he's a wise man. How could I not have an attitude of gratitude??
At times, tonight, in a good way, it was a positive battle/interchange between two Pablos.
I enjoy the way his expertise challenges me. When we parted, I hugged him and told him, as much as I hated to admit it----being a former cross-country runner, wrestler, and track athlete in school and still competitive----- that he can do things that I can't. That put a big smile on his face. :) I'm glad.
Thank you for dropping by. I hope life is treating you well. Remember to keep looking up. You are loved and loveable. We want to remember to thank those who are our Balcony People. The following is one description about these important members of our community of friends.
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This is that special time when the day changes it's name. By now, you know this is when new entries for this inn of encouragement, reflection and thanks pour forth, fresh from the little dances my fingers do upon my keyboard.
Today, I got rest, publicly challenged a local writer, supped and spent time with my son.
My Gratitudes for Tuesday:
1. I got a normal evening of sleep. This has been difficult lately, something I'm working on. I'm thankful for balance in my life and a long-term perspective. I know I live more fully when I treat my body with the respect it deserves.
2. My community of friends is growing---the good news is that it's a continual upgrade. As I continue to grow, my taste in companions is refining. I'm happy that I'm relating with others who enjoy great discussions, challenge my mind, are considerate, spiritual, love nature, exercise, stay in the solution and have a sense of humor.
Someone wanted my support. She struggles with her past. After a brief conversation I realized she really doesn't want to move beyond her history. What a sad state that is. She's comfortable with moaning and groaning, not wanting to do the work necessary to see progress.
Too bad.
Coming to terms with our issues and letting go of them does not deny they've happened. But it allows us to put them where they belong---in our past. This allows us to move forward unencumbered by the weight of ancient emotions.
I prefer staying in the solution. Every time I use healthy alternative to overcome areas where I struggle, I allow myself to create a better today. Now, that's more like it! Don't you agree?
So, I gave this woman a pass.
It's important remembering that we want to care about, but not for others. Click here for more on that. Unfortunately, some people need to experience the consequences of self-sabotaging behavior before becoming motivated to move on, using more constructive ways to overcome their pain.
It helps being mindful that I am the average of the five people that I hang out with.
3. I had fun writing something in a local paper. I disagreed with a columnist. I held my ground. I stood against the sarcasm and judgment he had towards a public figure, Ozzie Guillen, the manager of the Miami Marlins baseball team.
He replied, publicly in the paper. I still disagree with his position. I find sarcasm is not necessary. It's better to state our needs than to indirectly get them at the expense of a person's dignity, by putting them down, calling them a moron. You can click on the link above to see my comments.
4. Time with my oldest son.
Wonderful, inspiring, happy and helped was I, during our time shared. At length we discussed his work. Afterwards, we did marketing work on my business, using his expertise.
Each time we're together, I see him pulling further and further into the realm of adulthood. His life is intense, he's excelling in his career and he's a wise man. How could I not have an attitude of gratitude??
At times, tonight, in a good way, it was a positive battle/interchange between two Pablos.
I enjoy the way his expertise challenges me. When we parted, I hugged him and told him, as much as I hated to admit it----being a former cross-country runner, wrestler, and track athlete in school and still competitive----- that he can do things that I can't. That put a big smile on his face. :) I'm glad.
Thank you for dropping by. I hope life is treating you well. Remember to keep looking up. You are loved and loveable. We want to remember to thank those who are our Balcony People. The following is one description about these important members of our community of friends.
“At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” — Albert Schweitzer
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6 comments:
Good post Pablo. I hope your friend is able to move byond her history. I feel that's what hold a lot of people back in life. It prevents them from moving forward because they spend too much time looking backward.
Mmm, lovely quote. I have been wondering lately how I can ignite others with my light (without letting my own flame burnout) and this quote gives me hope. Thanks!
Good afternoon Keith,
I agree with you. Staying present is a gift. It's possible when we are able to forgive and trust.
When we are resentful or are bitter, we are looking back. We're having a problem with forgiveness. It helps remembering that "forgiveness isn't forgetting, it's letting go of the past."
We can have the same problem with looking forward, in a negative way---when we are anxious or fearful. I've found that these feelings involve a problem with trust.
In both cases we aren't being present, which is all we have---this very moment.
Hello Vanessa,
I enjoy your stays at the inn.
Yep, I like that quote too. It reminds me to appreciate the mutuality I have with my friends. There are times when they re-ignite me, when my flame is dying. The nice thing is that my emotionally mature friends are not an ephemeral flash fire created by the leaves of superficiality.
No, they are logs that provide a steady, consistent flame and warmth.
Thank you for dropping by, reading and commenting. It means much to the innkeeper. :)
Hi, Pablo,
My 3 gratitudes for this day are:
1. I am very grateful for my physical body even though I live with a chronic painful condition in my back. Tonight I am at a dear friend's home lending support because a bad reaction to her chemo meds has her bedridden because one of the side effects has impacted an old back injury and she has been in a great deal of pain the last several days. I am appreciating that conditions we experience in life are relative.
I am also thankful that when I arrived at my friend's house, another friend had arrived earlier and had brought us a lovely dinner from Whole Foods. It was good to see her again and for the 3 of us to spend time together before she had to leave.
I am also thankful that we are having rain, inconvenient tho it may be. I love the smell of the air after a hard rain has cleansed it and the air, revealing a richer visual palate.
It's growing late. Off to bed.
Aileen,
I appreciate your visits. I'm sorry hearing about your painful back. Ouch! Life can be miserable when we suffer discomfort.
I enjoy your ability to put things in perspective. We can complain about the qualities of our shoes until we meet someone with no feet. I enjoy getting to know you better.
I like when pleasant surprises happen, like the dinner brought to you and your friend. I consider them as kisses from God--He's letting you know he has his loving eye on you.
That was sensitive action by that visiting friend. You must have been happy and touched to end up having fellowship, when your only thought was to help.
Thank you for sharing your gratitudes---you make this a better place, when you do: your comments prompted me to add five new gratitudes to this inn!
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