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Be assured that just as an hour is only part of a day, so life on Earth is only part of eternity. Image: "Wetlands: Swan" by Tim Blessed. All rights reserved. Copyrighted photograph, used by permisssion. Caption by the artist.
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The day was relaxing, just what the innkeeper needed. A nap in the evening was the tonic I needed. Tightness in my quadriceps while riding my bike this morning prompted me to not do my long ride. I'll shoot for tomorrow..... Progress Not Perfection.
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In a comment to my previous post, "Defensive Hope, Revisited," Someone commented:"Last year I decided to leave a marriage that took a lot of my energy but
was not giving any back. I worked on hope for so long and tricked myself into thinking it was enough. Now I miss my best friend and fret that maybe I caused the fall of the marriage. I didn't know how to ask for more love. Perhaps I didn't feel I deserved more love than what was given.
"Now my defensive hope has switched towards my work. I want so badly to feel safe and productive at work, but all I see are signs that I am not good enough for my career. I live in fear most days. I am trying to figure out how to switch hope towards a helpful path."I love this person's honest and authentic comment. Few have it at the level this person does. Her comments help me know her better.
I admire her desire to do well, her sensitivity towards others and her desire to perform well at work. It would be a better world if there were more people like her.
The post I wrote last year, "Character Discernment" may help. I like this article, one of my favorites. I don't say that often. It would help many a relationship, including those within my circle of friends.
When I look at the points listed, I try to measure up as a Safe Person. If I am, I'm on the right track. Without diligence, I can slip into accepting unacceptable behavior. It's easy to do, my bent is this way. This post reminds me what I need in my "must haves" and "can't stands," when relating with others.
It helps being gentle with ourselves. Beating ourselves up won't do. Think of the love you would give if you had a little kitten in your hands. Try giving that same love towards yourself. I take this thought from Courage to Change, page 151. It continues:
"As I've grown..., I've have come to see that my Higher Power holds me in the same gentle way---protecting me, guiding me, and loving me every day.
"If I'm being hard on myself, I can stop and remember that I deserve that kind of gentleness and understanding from myself. Being a human being is not a character defect! Today, I will be gentle towards my humanness.
" 'The question is not what a man can scorn, or disparage, or find fault with, but what he can love, and value and appreciate.' John Ruskin "One thing that allows me to have serenity, despite my circumstances or how others at regard me at work is remembering the following:
"I block my well-being each time I base my self-worth on what I do or what other people think of me." Courage, p.118.We have value simply because we breathe the breath of humanity and we are loved by a gracious, patient God.
Wishing everyone a terrific week,
Pablo
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