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| Today, I roamed the streets of the island city of Alameda |
I've been away for a few days, uncharacteristic of the innkeeper. Thank you for visiting. In less than a month, I've added
eighteen
new clients. Wow.
My schedule has ramped up the past three weeks. I enjoy the work I do---in fact, I love it.
My Gratitudes for Wednesday:
1. So many things I could share, where do I start?? To begin with, there have been miraculous sessions with new clients. Working with people teetering on the edge of catastrophe, helping them to get off that precipice, is rewarding. Contributing towards mankind places plenty of gratitude within the innkeeper.
2. Meetings with vulnerable others has been an amazing spiritual practice.
I've been extruded into maintaining balance in my personal life. My increased caseload requires diligence in taking care of myself. I've been riding my bike more, sleeping more, staying on top of my priorities more. As a result, my sanity and serenity have not been affected. Ya ay!
3. I have a project I'm working on. I'm getting paid to write. I'm learning a lot as I work with this customer. I'm concerned with how this is working out. I see this gig as an opportunity to exercise my recovery, stating my boundaries, clearly.
4. I unexpectedly spoke before a group of people tonight. I did fine. I enjoy public speaking, so it worked out okay.
My topic was about staying in the solution and avoiding emotional vampires, something I experienced this last summer.
5. I met with someone early this evening, before meeting with a client. The time was compact, but rich. I enjoy our rapport. I appreciate his honesty and his sincere scrutiny of areas that have not served him.
6. I cycled today. I needed it. I'll sleep better. I invested in my emotional health by hitting the road on two wheels.
Not Accepting Unacceptable Behavior
I am unsatisfied with someone who I once considered as a friend. There was a problem we had at my birthday celebration, she making the occasion highly unpleasant, ruining the occasion. Unfortunately, her response has been unacceptable----none. Her delay over a matter important to me has moved me to move away from the relationship, not an easy thing to do.
It hasn't been working out for me. I'm grateful I've learned not accept unacceptable behavior. I'm maintaining integrity: I'm being true to important needs. Transparency, integrity, reliability, and honesty were lacking when relating with this person.
How About You?
1. What do you like best about your job? For me, it's seeing others becoming the person they want to be. It also has increased my need for being disciplined with my time and priorities.
2. How are you at dealing with unacceptable behavior? I've learned how to detach with love. I've learned that reciprocity is critical when relating with others. If I'm the one doing all the giving, there's something wrong.
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4 comments:
I had a similar experience about a month ago. A person who had been a good friend of mine started exhibiting behavior that was really hampering our friendship. I decided to take a step back, which caused the person to realize what they were doing so they apologized. All is forgiven easilt with me, so I readily accepted. However, once they had back comfortably as a friend again, they begain repeating the old behavior. So I am now contemplating a permanent step back.
Dear Innkeeper,
On this frigid (for the S.F. Bay Area) winter's night, i am grateful...
1. As I drove home after 13 hours and 120+ miles on the job, listening to Christmas music on the radio, I began to think..."Its high time I do something to help our family get in the Christmas Spirit." So, I decided that regardless of how spent I am, I'll put up some Christmas lights on the big, round bushes by our front door, when I return home. Lo and Behold, as I approach our driveway, from a distance in the dark, I spy our beautiful Christmas lights already strung up (by my wife and #2 son), high in the lazy Loquat tree! What a joyous surprise and warm welcome home! Now I need to load up the stereo with Christmas CD's!
2. A quiet evening at home to eat a good home-cooked meal, read and write a bit, and turn in early.
3. That one resourceful son found more firewood today, and that my resourceful wife found a beautiful wood burning stove at a thrift store for only $60!
4. That the weekend is only one more day away!
Dear Keith,
That's frustrating, isn't it? I'm sad, too. I believe we get what we tolerate.
Unfortunately, I'm needing to end this relationship that is troubling me, not an easy thing to do.
Thanks for empathizing with me, though. I appreciate it.
Dear Carl,
I bet seeing the tree lit up was a sight for sore eyes and relief for you!
Glad to see you here. I hope your weekend went well.
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