Friday, August 31
Tuesday, August 28
Calmness in the Eye of the Storm, Part IV. My Source for Sanity, Serenity and Strength
Monday, August 27
Calmness In the Eye of the Emotional Storm, Part III. Tranquility When Tempted to Be Agitated or Depressed ....................8/27/12
Troubles are often the tools by which God fashions us for better things. Image: "Countryside: Across the Valley" by Tim Blessed. Copyrighted photo. Used by permission. |
How was your day? I'll get to today's topic in a minute, but first I'll share
Sunday, August 26
A Fantastic Way to Start the Week ...................8/26/12
The majestic view I had tonight. I love the skyscape! Image: "Wetlands: Winter Winds" by Tim Blessed. Copyrighted photo. Used by permission. |
Friday, August 24
Calmness in the Eye of the Storm, Part II. Perspective and My Source for Serenity and Strength
The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands in times of challenge and controversy. |
This was not a good day, if I look at things horizontally. What do I mean? If I look at my circumstances from a worldly point of view, I should be despairing. I don't and I'm not.
I see life
Serenity: Being Untethered to the Demands of Today's Technology
Thursday, August 23
Alexander the Grey, Part II. The Joy of Simple and Quiet Pleasures With a Dear Friend
Wednesday, August 22
Alexander the Grey(t), My Friend, Part I .....8/22/12
Tuesday, August 21
God Is Not My Spiritual Bellboy, Part III .................................8/20/12
Monday, August 20
The Need for Boundaries, Revisited ........8/20/12
Good evening everyone,
The day was eventful, but good. I saw several clients and also attended a class. For those who haven't read this post, I'm bumping it up. I first wrote it last year, in July. Let me know if you resonate with it.
Sunday, August 19
A Fire Lit Under the Innkeeper
How are you?
The day was lovely, I met with friends, rode my bike at length, with speed, twice, and heard a speaker who lit a fire under me. Best yet, I got his number and will follow up by getting personal advice from him. Other than that, it was an average day.
My Gratitudes for Saturday:
1. Today, I ended a relationship with a person I mentor. I don't mean it to sound that way. Ending the relationship is not a
The day was lovely, I met with friends, rode my bike at length, with speed, twice, and heard a speaker who lit a fire under me. Best yet, I got his number and will follow up by getting personal advice from him. Other than that, it was an average day.
My Gratitudes for Saturday:
1. Today, I ended a relationship with a person I mentor. I don't mean it to sound that way. Ending the relationship is not a
Saturday, August 18
Thursday, August 16
Our Values Have to Precede Our Attachment: Otherwise, We Are Selling Ourselves Short ....................8/16/12
Wednesday, August 15
The Innkeeper Is Loved by Others and Is Venturing Into New Areas, Geographic and Emotional
Where my friend and I rode today. I like the urban forest in this part of town. |
I'm tired again. Tonight, it's a good tiredness. Last night, I slept well for the first time in a long time---I woke up after eight hours, feeling toasty and rested.
Today, I made lunch for a guest who dropped by. His enthusiasm for what I cooked made my efforts a pleasure. In the afternoon, I met with someone I mentor. A vigorous bike ride, was had. I couldn't shake him---he stayed right with me. :-> I feel the effects of
Tuesday, August 14
I'm exhausted. I slept poorly last night. I awoke at 3:30 a.m. and did not return to sleep after that. Even with that being the case, I'm happy. After this post, I'm going to bed.
My Gratitudes for Monday:
1. For hope. It moves me forward. I know hope because of hard work I've done in my life, working on those areas needed improvement and my relationship
Sunday, August 12
Saturday, August 11
Good evening,
Today, I'm working a double shift as the innkeeper. I saw several of you earlier today. Here, I am again. Having asked you to produce your gratitudes, I don't want to be remiss in sharing mine. One life showing the way is better than ten tongues trying to explain it.
My Gratitudes:
1. I'm thankful for the fun of riding on BART, the local metro train service where I live. More interesting than watching TV, if I watched TV.
2. I'm thankful for not thinking this week when stressed. I simply put
Today, I'm working a double shift as the innkeeper. I saw several of you earlier today. Here, I am again. Having asked you to produce your gratitudes, I don't want to be remiss in sharing mine. One life showing the way is better than ten tongues trying to explain it.
My Gratitudes:
1. I'm thankful for the fun of riding on BART, the local metro train service where I live. More interesting than watching TV, if I watched TV.
2. I'm thankful for not thinking this week when stressed. I simply put
The Innkeeper's "Movie" Moment: Discovering Kindness in A Sea of Humanity ...........8/11/12
Inside a train. The one described below was twice as crowded as this. It was packed. |
Thank you for dropping by. I know many do, without sharing gratitudes. How come?
It's easy allowing the pressures of life to weigh us down. What I love about recovery from despair, abuse, and emotional vampires (those who want to suck all the energy out of us) is that we learn how to seize life----even in
Friday, August 10
Connecting With My Guests: I've Been Out of the Loop ..............................8/10/12
From within its walls did many of today's events occur, and yesterday's, too. |
Did you miss me? Late last night I arrived at home and conked out. I was beat. I'm up early. Soon, I'll head to a business meeting, another attempt at building my practice. How was your Thursday?
I rode multiple miles yesterday, using my bike. On top of that, I met with a company where I might provide my services. Afterwards, I went to the DMV (the department of motor vehicles, for my guests who don't live in the U.S.), an experience in itself. By late night, I felt as if I was walking through
Wednesday, August 8
An Intense Week for the Innkeeper ..............8/8/12
Good evening,
I'm tired. My week has been intense, but intensely good. But it was rigorous---physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. Tomorrow, I'm pursuing funding for my business. I've an appointment at 10:30 a.m. in a city that's six towns away.
I'm ready for the interview. Wish me luck. Your prayers are requested. Success happens, we are told, when preparation meets
Greetings to My Russian Friends
Hello,
How are you, today?
I want to give a special greeting to my Russian guests, who have become the second largest readership for this inn.
I hope you are enjoying your accommodations to this inn. Be careful, before calling it a night, I've left chocolates on your pillow. Signing the registry to this inn, by sharing three gratitudes, makes the innkeeper happy. Making your stay as pleasant as possible, is my hope. Let me know if you need any help getting acquainted with the different amenities found here, at the Attitude of Gratitude Inn.
Она была моя радость Вашей поездки. Гости из вашей страны сейчас мой второй по величине клиентуры. Что вы будете наслаждаться больше всего вашего пребывания. Пожалуйста, ответ на русском языке. С ресурсами Интернет я могу воплотить все ваши замечания. Желая Вам очень благодарен за день, Павел
For the rest of you, I'd love hearing the gratitudes you have for Wednesday.
The Innkeeper
How are you, today?
I want to give a special greeting to my Russian guests, who have become the second largest readership for this inn.
I hope you are enjoying your accommodations to this inn. Be careful, before calling it a night, I've left chocolates on your pillow. Signing the registry to this inn, by sharing three gratitudes, makes the innkeeper happy. Making your stay as pleasant as possible, is my hope. Let me know if you need any help getting acquainted with the different amenities found here, at the Attitude of Gratitude Inn.
Она была моя радость Вашей поездки. Гости из вашей страны сейчас мой второй по величине клиентуры. Что вы будете наслаждаться больше всего вашего пребывания. Пожалуйста, ответ на русском языке. С ресурсами Интернет я могу воплотить все ваши замечания. Желая Вам очень благодарен за день, Павел
For the rest of you, I'd love hearing the gratitudes you have for Wednesday.
The Innkeeper
Tuesday, August 7
A Busy But Happy Innkeeper---Staying In the Solution
How are you?
I've been busy, busy, busy. Did I tell you I've been busy? :) I've spent time in the nearby town of Oakland, taking care of business the past two days. This evening, I didn't get home until 10:30 p.m. Am I complaining? Not at all. I'm happy,
I've been busy, busy, busy. Did I tell you I've been busy? :) I've spent time in the nearby town of Oakland, taking care of business the past two days. This evening, I didn't get home until 10:30 p.m. Am I complaining? Not at all. I'm happy,
Monday, August 6
Blessed by Empathy, Traveling Down Memory Lane ................................8/6/12
Sunday, August 5
Love: Balancing Perspectives
After the break, are thoughts from Carl, for a post I wrote this morning. I could not leave them there, hidden within
Armida, Part I. Counting Our Blessings: A Reminder That Tomorrow or Next Month Is Not Guaranteed, Revisited ...............................8/5/12
Innkeeper's note:
I'm bumping this up. Let me know what you think. This post, written last year in May puts my recent struggles in perspective. I dedicate this post in remembrance of my dear friend, Armida, and her family.
How are you? I'll discuss today's topic after my gratitudes.
I've been on the go for several days. Thursday, I met with friends. Afterwards, some of us took in a movie. My oldest son is a manager at a twenty-five screen theater and I get to see first-run movies for free. It makes me
I'm bumping this up. Let me know what you think. This post, written last year in May puts my recent struggles in perspective. I dedicate this post in remembrance of my dear friend, Armida, and her family.
How are you? I'll discuss today's topic after my gratitudes.
I've been on the go for several days. Thursday, I met with friends. Afterwards, some of us took in a movie. My oldest son is a manager at a twenty-five screen theater and I get to see first-run movies for free. It makes me
Saturday, August 4
Friday, August 3
Thursday, August 2
The Healing Power of Long-term Friends and Feeling Our Emotions .............8/2/12
“The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever the same. Yet our lessons come from the journey, not the destination.” Don Williams Jr. Image: "Tullamore Lane" by Tim Blessed. Copyrighted photograph, all rights reserved. |
1. Today, it happened. I got clarity on issues that were troubling me. And the clarity I got was not what I hoped for. I found out that resolving
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Wednesday, August 1
Today, I was unusually energized, encouraged too. Refreshed and more
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Quotes from the Posts
"I'm mindful that our thoughts affect the words we use, our words influence our actions, our actions shape our character and our character determines our destiny."
From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.
"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."
From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post written. To read it, please click here.
"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.
"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."
From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post written. To read it, please click here.
"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
From the post: "Life Is Not a Correspondence Program." Click here to read it.
"Even though we cannot control our circumstances, we can control how we choose to respond to them."
From, "Handling Stress and Dealing With an Emotional Bully."Click here to read this post.
"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"
From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.
"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"
From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.
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