Change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, and remove yourself from the unacceptable. Denis WaitleyI give up. A circumstance worse than being the twentieth person in line at a checkout stand in a supermarket---with each person before me having fifty items---has no appeal. Reading the National Enquire of disappointment while waiting for life to improve, no longer interests me. I do not like feeling so low I could go outside and play handball against the curb. I have reached the frazzled end of the rope of my patience.
Recently, I was knocked back, by the bullets of reality. Facing the firing squad of truth terminated several hopes and dreams. Now, I am moving forward, unencumbered by the anchor of codependency. Tolerating unneeded frustration is a no no. Codependency is surrendering our values and opinions because of fear towards
the rejection or anger of another. I fear no one. Serenity, sanity and confidence are mine. They are the fabric of my character. They are the result of decades of hard work and continuous investment in personal growth.
Have you found yourself in a similar place---emotionally or situationally---where you were frustrated, tolerating unacceptable conditions? I was there. Not now.
An unacceptable situation is no longer tolerated. Respect for my emotional well-being prevents me from accepting the short stick of life. Now comes detaching, along with grief. Healthy sorrow. Knowing the enormity of my emotions without being overwhelmed by them is a result of recovery. Placing values before attachment, is what I will do. Not easy. But necessary. Placing principles before personalities, including my own is the action I take.I will pray for patience, because if I pray for strength, I may throw you out the window.
I am succored by guiding principles. They provide a stable, drama-free life, giving the peace of mind and celebration of life needed for happiness, sanity and serenity.
1. I am thankful for clarity. It contributes towards the consciousness I need. Clarity helps me discover options available that help meet my needs.
2. I don't live by other people's standards. The days of serfs are over. This is the 21st Century. I live by my values and boundaries. Others do not have to agree. I don't ask them to. But my values are needed in order for me to celebrate the Great Big Life my Higher Power has for me. I am true to myself, thankful for autonomy. It is a great source for joy and freedom.
I don't understand why so many people do things they do not want to do, to impress others whom do not know, who usually don't care much about them.
3. I gathered with friends tonight. Was it swell. Honesty, vulnerability, transparency and laughter happened there. It was great being appreciated. It feels good, belonging to a group of loving people, being nurtured. A lucky guy I am.
PabloMay you have a grea and grateful Thursday. I know I will!