Friday, July 25

A Fantastic, Rare, and Unfinished Conversation. Wisdom, Greater Than Knowledge ..................7/26/14

A picture I took a couple of months ago, while at the shore of Half Moon Bay
About an hour before the sun said good night and sank into the Pacific Ocean. 
My Gratitudes for Friday:
1.  I am getting my sea-legs under me.  For the past month-and-a-half I have been getting acquainted with living in a new town, having a new schedule and multiple changes that overloaded my ability to cope, physically, spiritually and mentally. The dizzying effect of these changes, happening all at once,
threw off my equanimity.

Being Present:
 Critical For a Relationship To Thrive and Have Depth

      Yesterday a terrific conversation was had.  A big issue still needs resolving.   It will be settled by next week, Tuesday, maybe.  Closure, having an understanding, is critical for the serenity needed to live fully.  As I wrote here, two characteristics that create inauthentic relating are:
 1.  Evading important issues.
 2.  Indirect communication.

     That is not my problem.  My values are expressed clearly, when relating. In Thursday's conversation, I was honest, while remaining kind and understanding.  Kindness and assertion are not mutually exclusive.  I was not interested in being right.  I was not interested  in proving someone wrong.  Nor was I interested in what the other person thought of me.  That is, managing this individual's impression of me.  I was me: sincere, finding out what was alive within the other individual.

     I was vulnerable.  My adult self spoke.  No wounded, or self-pitying child voiced his fears or indignant judgments.  Confidence, born from the love that envelopes my personhood---a result of the good company I keep and the deep love I know from God---exuded from me as I voiced concerns.

     During our visit I was more concerned in expressing my truth, values and needs. I wanted to uncover what was going on within the other person, paying attention to what I heard, not trying to direct the conversation, managing the outcomes.

The C Word

Second Gratitude:

       Gratitude number two is the love that soothes me, from head-to-toe, when spending time with friends. When with them, authenticity and loving concern marks our time together.  Commitment is integral for any strong relationship and for it to endure.  There can be no emotional safety without commitment.

      It is not the flashy pseudo and superficial intimacy of sexual passion that will truly engage two people.  Nope, depth of a relationship is born when there is connection of the mind, body and soul.  Where there is the "C" word.

3.  I spoke my truth yesterday, for more than four hours.  So did the other person.  I love conversation that comes from the heart, trusting God for the outcome, be it good or unwanted.
4.  Saw a fantastic movie tonight, with a friend.  Lucy.  Stunning, mind-boggling and visually startling.

Wisdom, Greater Than Knowledge

     There is someone I have gotten to know who is different from anyone else I have met.  What a gift it is, knowing, talking and relating with this person.  This individual speaks from the right hemisphere, from the emotional part of our mind.

     This is the part that matters most to me, meeting a great bulk of my needs.  I don't ask you to agree.  The right hemisphere is the part from which wisdom is derived.  This is far superior to knowledge.  Wisdom is applied knowledge.  It is knowing how to take the knowledge gotten and using it in our lives, today.

How About You? 
What are your gratitudes for today? 

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Quotes from the Posts

"I'm mindful that our thoughts affect the words we use, our words influence our actions, our actions shape our character and our character determines our destiny."

From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.

"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."

From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post
written. To read it, please click here.

"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
From the post: "Life Is Not a Correspondence Program." Click here to read it.

"Even though we cannot control our circumstances, we can control how we choose to respond to them."

From, "Handling Stress and Dealing With an Emotional Bully."Click here to read this post.

"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"

From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.