Friday, November 2

Celebrating Being Internally Referented: Freedom to Be Me

What the skies have looked like, lately. Not the best of weather for cycling. I will 
ride Saturday, regardless. I'm persistent. As long as there is no thunder, I don't want
circumstances to change my hair, and make me look like the Bride of Frankenstein. 
     Good evening,

I'm tired. After writing my gratitudes I'm heading for bed. I have a splitting headache, the result of not getting
much sleep the past few days.

     My life is getting more organized.  That's good.   I'm working on building my business.  The past few weeks have been a time of professional growth.  I may ride bikes with a good friend, Stuart, Sunday, weather permitting.  I've known him for more than twenty years.

     It's interesting how others are discovering this cozy place in cyberspace.  I'm not certain how it happens, but I enjoy serving as the innkeeper.

My Gratitudes for this Fine Friday Evening: 
1. I look forward to what God will do with my life over the next few months.  Stress is relieved when I remember that my welfare is His concern.  He's committed to my welfare, in all areas: emotional, spiritual, physical and mentally.  Wow.
"Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed upon thee, because he trusteth in thee."         Isaiah 26:3
2. I enjoy getting to know you who drop by.
     Thanks for your support, insight and your friendship. I like the community we're developing.  I learn from you: I grow as you share your experience, strength and hope.
      If I can help in any way, please let me know.
3. I cycled today---it was cool, but I didn't wear a jacket or sweater.
      It was perfect.  I look forward to getting in a longer ride, later Saturday afternoon.  I've been so busy working that I haven't had much time to ride.
      I miss the spiritual awakenings I receive when traveling on two wheels.  Tomorrow, I'll make that happen.
4. Today, grocery shopping replenished my cupboards.
      The new rack on my bike came in handy----I carried 68 lbs. (30.84 kilos) on my bike.  I almost felt like an ant; not quite, but almost.  That's another Wow.
5. My right leg is doing much better.
       It was banged up, painful for the longest time and infected.  Now, it's looking more normal.
6. I'm meeting with someone I mentor Saturday, at Starbucks.
       That's a change of routine.  I look forward to the fellowship. I am available to help this person any way I can, if I can.
7. Someone wants to intern and work for me.
        She attended the nonviolent communication workshop I taught two weeks ago.  She's working on her Masters in counseling.  It's always good working with others.
        I'm happy sharing whatever expertise I have, if it helps her.
8. I'm working on presenting a series to the public on dating, nonviolent communication and dealing with anger, at the local library.
        It will be a pleasure helping others who may struggle with these issues. I love teaching.
9. I had an interesting conversation with a friend yesterday.
       I learned more about her than I think she realized.  I'm thankful for the perspective I've gained through personal growth.
       It's taught me how to respond, not react.  I've spent the past twenty-four hours processing the time spent with her yesterday.
10. I'm thankful for discernment.
        It allows me to have better friendships.  It also prevents me from relationships that do not meet my needs for reciprocity, equality, fun, fellowship, open communication and emotional safety, not to  mention, tranquility and harmony.
11. This has been a busy week.
        I'm thankful I balance my time at work with exercise.  Otherwise, the way it could tax my emotions could become overwhelming. I love having balance in my life.
12. I celebrate the times I have alone to be reflect, study, meditate and write.
        This "me" time helps me to stay internally referented. Yes, that's a word.
13. I'm glad that I have strong clarity as to what I seek in my relationships with others.
         Because I know my "must haves" and "can't stands," I know when my boundaries are crossed and am able to do what it takes to have my needs met.
14. I'm thankful that I am an equal with all other human beings, as they are with me.
Freedom To Be Me and Enjoying Amazing Relationships, Really. 
      I celebrate being internally referented.  This means I don't allow others to define who I am or determine my moods.  My addiction to unhealthy, unbalanced relationships has subsided. Ya ay!
     I know a freedom that allows me to be authentically me.  Most importantly, I appreciate those whom God brings into my life. They accept me unconditionally for how I am, right now, not for how they would want me to appear or behave.  What liberty this provides me!  My soul can breathe.
How About You?
What has your heart singing for joy?  Please share.  I love it when you do.

2 comments:

Optimistic Existentialist said...

one thing that has my heart singing for joy is a wonderful new friend that I have made recently! Have a great Saturday Pablo.

Pablo said...

Dear Keith,

Thanks for sharing. What would we do without good friendships? I appreciate you dropping by, even on your day off. It's great having you back!

What do you like about this friend, if I may ask? For me, I value loyalty and reciprocity.

A happy innkeeper

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