"Our past, released by forgiveness and gratitude, frees our present to be all it can be." Tim Blessed
Image: "Field and Country: Spring Shine by Tim Blessed. Copyrighted photo. His caption fits this post well.
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My Gratitudes for 6/21/11:
1. I'm working out, making exercise a priority. I feel good when I take care of
me.
2. I love myself when I stay in the moment, learn from mistakes and delight in the wonders of the day.
3. I'm thankful for the recovery I've known the nine plus years. It has largely eliminated perseverating: obsessive and compulsive thinking of the negative kind.me.
2. I love myself when I stay in the moment, learn from mistakes and delight in the wonders of the day.
4. I appreciate allowing others to have their space. Instead, I focus on what I can do to make my life more manageable.
5. I enjoy serenity. It's the result of letting others be who they are, even if I disagree.
6. I celebrate that we care for ourselves when we don't base our worth on what we do or what other people think of us.
Our Ideal Self Isn’t:
My ideal self once judged the vulnerable parts of me---those areas needing growth. Because of caring, mentors, friends and family members---my Balcony People, especially note the last half of this link----the image of my ideal self has changed. Because of their unconditional, healing support, I now apply compassion, gentleness and grace, towards me, particularly towards the less than best parts of me.
I'm thankful self-compassion is possible. I've grown, as I've worked on my vulnerabilities. I'm thankful for an insightful, patient, gracious mentor and healthy loving principles. They help me see that much of what I held as ideal is errant, less than perfect.
As a result, this once demanding part of me, my ideal self, has transformed. It is no longer the terrifying specter that once haunted me, when younger. It no longer condemns or beat me up. Imagine that. Instead, it now loves me. Amazing. Gosh, even.
I'm grateful for the healing my soul knows.
As a result, this once demanding part of me, my ideal self, has transformed. It is no longer the terrifying specter that once haunted me, when younger. It no longer condemns or beat me up. Imagine that. Instead, it now loves me. Amazing. Gosh, even.
I'm grateful for the healing my soul knows.
Love received from others enables me to tell myself, "that's okay sweetie," as I haltingly take steps that help me get characterologically stronger. I no longer kick myself with the pointed boots of self-judgement, because of past mistakes. I don't wound my soul with the painful dimples of condemnation.
My ideal self---now compassionate towards myself and deaf to the internal voice of the demanding, negative, critical parent---supports the weaker portions of me. When the real, vulnerable parts of myself are loved, they emerge from hiding, experiencing healing and transformation.
When my "real self" used to feel condemned, this roguish part of me ran away. It donned a psychological fig-leaf. It attempted to avoid shame. There's no healthy emotional outcome, when I found myself there.
The following helps instead:"Condemning my imperfections has never enhanced my appreciation of life nor has it helped me to love myself more. " Courage To Change, p 19
I cannot be perfect. I cannot make others perfect. Yet I am worthy of love, respect, and joy. Let me remind myself each day that I am the child of God. That, in itself, commands respect---my respect--- for the miraculous "self" I have been given. When I hold this at the forefront of my mind, I will not give up my "self" in the course of any endeavor.
As we focus on improving areas our character, I'm struck that doing so allows us to start life over again. We experience growth and healing from the past woundings of life. That's a pretty good deal.Today, when faced with choices, I will opt for the path that enhances my self-esteem. I am learning to live a full life, one in which I like and care for the person I am.
How About You?
1. How are you taking care of yourself?
2. What helps you to enjoy serenity?
3. What inaccurate image of your "ideal self' have you removed? I.e., being personally perfect, needing success in order to be valued, a certain body image, having perfect children or having a perfect relationship, etc.
4. In what way are you loving yourself more and being less harsh towards yourself?
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