Wednesday, June 12

Compassionate Communication, Revisited 6/12/13

       Good morning,

          I love when you post comments, they contribute to the community we enjoy here.  I appreciate them.  For many guests, it's time to hear from you.  Yes, you.

          We'd enjoy hearing your thoughts on what is posted in this inn, even if it's old.  I value your insights and It's always good getting to know you.

          I leave this entry, written in April of 2011.  Compassionate communication is wonderful idea.  It reminds me of a reply Gandhi had when asked,  "What do you think of Western Civilization?"  He said,
"That would be a great idea."  Take a listen to what Marshall Rosenberg says about communication:
"If we want to be compassionate we must be conscious of the words we use. We must both speak and listen from the heart." 
When we keep the spotlight on the other person's feelings and needs, we support their personal growth. Their motivations will come from a desire to connect rather than to please others, being rewarded or avoid criticism.  
We also support others in evaluating for themselves how well they are meeting their needs, rather than encouraging that they look to others for their evaluation. 
Celebrating successes is an opportunity to connect with another. Instead of offering an evaluation such as "Great Job" or "You're smart," empathize with the feelings and needs that are met for the person you're relating with: "Are you glad because you solved the problem?"        

How About You? 

    What way do you encourage others?  Do you like it when someone says, "Good job," to you?  Is it just me, being finicky, about this phrase?  When someone says that to me, I'm uncomfortable. I relate with everyone as an equal. 

        Thank you for dropping by.  May God bless you during what could be a busy week, if we lose our focus.

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Quotes from the Posts

"I'm mindful that our thoughts affect the words we use, our words influence our actions, our actions shape our character and our character determines our destiny."

From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.

"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."

From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post
written. To read it, please click here.

"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
From the post: "Life Is Not a Correspondence Program." Click here to read it.

"Even though we cannot control our circumstances, we can control how we choose to respond to them."

From, "Handling Stress and Dealing With an Emotional Bully."Click here to read this post.

"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"

From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.