|Troubles are often the tools by which God fashions us for better things.|
Image: "Countryside: Across the Valley" by Tim Blessed. Copyrighted photo. Used by permission.
Feeling equilibrium, drawing from God's strength and love is preferred during these times. It's an amazing gift, having this as my routine reaction now, when weathering turbulent moments. Peace, when swirling in the eye of an circumstantial storm helps me focus.
Serenity is an amazing gift, the result of applying healthy principles above the vulnerable parts of my personality. I lean on my relationship with God while connecting with my emotionally safe friends. These options are better than inadequate coping methods my younger self once used when immersed with drama.
The inadequate tools of isolating, anger, resentment, bitterness and self-loathing have been tossed out of my toolbox. No longer my default modes, when experiencing life's drama or disappointment. This is true whether the problems are internal or external----when with others. Using constructive alternatives, is more effective.
Often, I find it is better to not think, just do. (No, I don't work for Nike.) Just do the next right step. If I don't live by recovery principles, I could analyze too much, a form of trying to control the uncontrollable, a form of futility.
I'm grateful for the ease, emotional safety, joy, tranquility I enjoy. Now, it often transcends my circumstances. One key factor is no longer beating myself up. I have Balcony People who undergird me with love.
Now, I'm gentle towards myself. When wrong, I treat myself with tenderness, with grace. This was not my experience, when I erred as a child. Back then, it was the end of the world to my dad and older siblings. I was punished.
I'm thrilled for having found hope for my past. I'm creating new legacies, replacing the ineffective methods . I am loving towards myself when I goof.
I have learned that when I experience a disappointing or frustrating moment in my life, it can be either a monument to my past pain, or, by how I respond, it can reflect the healing, growth and grace I now know.
Sure, it may feel good----temporarily---being petulant. But, would I really want to trade that for the peace, joy, and harmony I feel, when replacing my character defects with effective alternatives? I am glad I've learned a better way to live, life now is not only about being at peace with others, and circumstances, but with myself.
How About You?
What are your three gratitudes for today? I'd love hearing them. Thanks!