Thursday, January 9

Letting Go, Revisited 1/09/14

    According to the sidebar, something written two years ago has surged in popularity.  It has spiked its way to first place, among posts viewed this week.  I'm sharing it again, for those who may not have read it. 

o let go doesn’t mean to stop caring:
       it means I can’t do it for someone else.
   To let go is not to cut myself off:
       it is the realization that I can’t control another.
   To let go is not to enable: but to allow learning 
         from natural consequences.
             To let go is to admit powerlessness,
                 which means the outcome is not in my hands.
     To let go is not to try to change or blame another: I
         can only change myself.
     To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
     To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
     To let go is not to judge,
                 but to allow another to be a human being.
     To let go is not to be in the middle           
                 arranging outcomes, but to allow others to
                 effect their own outcomes.
     To let go is not to be protective:
                  it is to allow another to face reality
     To let go is not to deny, but to accept.
     To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue, but to 
                          search out my own shortcomings
                  and to correct them.
     To let go is not to adjust everything to my 
                 desires, but to take each day as it comes and 
                 to cherish the moment.
     To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone, but
                 to try to become what I dream I can be.
     To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow 
           and live in the present.
     To let go is to fear less and love more.  


Carl H said...

Dear Innkeeper,

On this drizzly Saturday night, I am grateful for...

1. Some semblance of moisture; near rain which we in Northern California sorely need.

2. Being able to unexpectedly come to the aid of my ailing Mom this morning, as seemed to be struggling to breath with a respiratory infection. She was not in any real danger, just a bit panicked, and doing much better now.

3. While with her longer than usual, I was grateful for some meaningful discussion about your Depression-era childhood, her mother, and family life...and caring for her alcoholic Mom during her final days.

4. Time today to make a couple of key phone calls to clear up practical matters that needed resolving.

5. Being able to see that my extensive "To Do" list for this past week was nearly completed, and being able to begin a much shorter one for the coming week.

6. Letting Go of the "small stuff" that is not essential, and does not HAVE to be done today...can wait for tomorrow, or another day.

Carl H said...

Dear Innkeeper,

On this Tuesday night, I am grateful for...

1. Cough drops, Robitussin and the multitude of cold and cough medicine we have available to us, during this cold, cough and flu season.

2. Awareness, Acceptance and Action today regarding an unexpected and challenging, 150+ mile trip north to deliver two, small fish! All good; well worth it in the end.

3. Catching up with the season premiere of Blacklist tonight.

4. My wife's homemade chicken soup (for the weary soul).

5. Taking a much needed sick day tomorrow.

6. The beautiful Christmas songs of praise on the acapella Pentatonix album/CD in my car that kept me going when the coffee ran out!

Syd said...

Your writing about letting go is really good. Very well-written.

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