A Grateful Innkeeper

Gratitudes for Sunday:
1. Today, I met with friends.  I'm thankful for

A Spiritual Awakening, Appreciating Life's Gifts, Revisited ........9/23/12

Forgiveness is man's deepest need and highest achievement. Horace Bushnell
To forgive is God-like, and one of the greatest uses of our free will.
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Mahatma Ghandi
Forgiveness is the price of Happiness. Mark Pilbeam, Hellsgeriatric
Forgiveness is freedom. Tony Dailo,
The glory of Christianity is to conquer by forgiveness. William Blake
Unforgiveness is the burning of the bridge we must cross ourselves.
(The photographer's caption)

      Good morning.  Yep, I usually don't work this early at the inn.  I wish everyone a wonderful Sunday.

        I'm bumping this post up.  It was written the first month this inn opened it's doors.  One of the all-time most popular posts, it is.  I hope, as suggested below, you'll discover a moment today where you experience one of the small gifts God gives us, each day, if

Taking Stock of This Week: Want to Join Me? 9/22/12

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive 

the situation, unless you realize that that situation is over, you cannot move 
forward.”   Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free 

Image: "Wetlands: Autumn Sunshine by Tim Blessed. Copyrighted photograph. 

How About You?  What allows you to move on, beyond your past? Besides what I wrote in yesterday's post,

Acceptance, With Empowering Options, & Grace, Not Condemnation or Resignation .............................9/21/12

“Letting go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore. It's just
 realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.” 
― Deborah Reber, Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul

      The following is a comment I wrote at Morgan's blog, who has been dropping by here recently.  It was a response to a post of hers about letting go of the past. I thought I'd share my

Complaining Only Makes Our Problems Larger and More Disturbing ..........9/20/12

     Hi there, everyone,

How was your Wednesday? I running a bit behind. Usually I get my entries before the midnight witching hour.  Not so, today.

      Tuesday, I handled the

Growth: Removing What Makes Us Comfortable With Unacceptable Circumstances ................................9/18/12

My default mode, in relationships, if I'm not careful.  

     Good morning all,

Have you missed me? I'm tired. My head is pinching me, from

Boundaries: A Source for Sanity ....................9/14/12

     Good evening,

How are you?  So many good things happened this week, a time rife with tension and deep, negative emotions.
My Gratitudes for Friday:
1. I received tremendous support this week, beyond my wildest dreams.
2. I was loved in many different ways this week.  I'm still stunned by the

        Good morning everyone,

How are you?  I'm glad to return to the Attitude of Gratitude Inn.  This day was challenging, fun, demanding, exciting and fulfilling.

       I'm changing my work routine.  It's been years since

Happiness is a Choice; Gratitude is a Choice (Better to stay in the solution than dwelling on the problem.) Revisited...............9/11/12

       Good evening.  I had an intense morning, but fun. I trained another, showing her how

Perseverance: Essential for Success, Revisited 9/9/12

In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream

 always wins–not through strength but by perseverance.”

 – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

       Service helps those who perform it.

       Such was the case, as I re-wove ideas taken from Beth Allen.  When finished, I was encouraged, invig-orated.   My hope is her comments will inspire you, too.

        Being consis-tently diligent in applying---daily---healthy principles, is necessary if we want personal progress, recovery.

       We do not become the person we want to be, by remain-ing the way we are.  Healthy values are to be a reality, not nice ideas floating in our mind.  Living the same old way, everyday, is a form of Learned Helplessness.

       If there is no movement towards wholeness, progress is nonex-istent.  Learned Helplessness is a form of denial.  We are not addressing what we can to do to have the life we want and deserve.
   

      We want to work on our weaknesses until they become our strengths.

       Recovery is to be anchored within our soul.  It is to be the core of who we are.  It is demonstrated in our lives. We want to be ideologically consistent.

       This means having integrity, being true to our values.

       Characterological change is not feeding our minds.  Principles of knowledge are not silver bullets.  Information does not slay the beasts we face in life.

       Knowledge will not overcome life's monsters of depression and fear. Thoughts alone do not overcome anxiety, or external referenting.  Personal growth, equanimity, and the strength that comes with it require strenuous, continual effort.

       Just like the guy pictured above.

       Such effort is birthed by realizingwe want to get the most out of life, not just live with resignation.  Our life improves when we replace the areas where we need to grow----with a new and better be-havior. (One Day At A Time, p. 280.)

        Growth isn't talking a good game.  We know words are cheap.  Spiritual regeneration that is real----or the lack of it----is reflected in every breath we take.

        Our character is revealed in the way we hold our shoulders, stomach, how we walk and smile.  It is reflected in how we treat the less fortunate when others are not looking,  We demonstrate who we are when we respond to those who lie to us, or try to manipulate.

        Being pleasant to unpleasant people while remaining true to our boundaries reveals recovery from codepend-ency. 

       The following re-written post reminds us to persevere.  We can, if  we rely on God's strength.  It also helps being mindful of the love many have for us.

       We are lovable, even when the world swirls us around and we do not know which end is up.  Holding fast to affirming principles, plac-ing them above our personality, gives us serenity and joy. 

        Listen to this from Beth Allen:

If someone asked me for one character quality that is the cor-nerstone for success, I would say perseverance.  Being great athletes, parents, leaders or achieving anything else---weight loss, reducing clutter, getting our finances in order, is really about willingness to per-sist in the face of challenges. We use these opportunities as a means to exercise our commit-ment towards whatever goal we seek.

Expecting the road to success to be a cakewalk leads to disap-pointment. No one is immune to the obstacles life presents. However, I hold the power to choose what I do with whatever challenge I face. 

So, how about you? Do you persist when times are tough?  Do you pause while assessing the obstacle? 

Do you view your situation positively, that what you face is an opportunity that can lead to growth and fulfillment?  

This is where a positive attitude is critical. [Click here, for more about this.] We live in a society of instant gratification. Many of us treat our goals in the same manner. 

  We may expect instant mas-tery, flawless performan-ces. We may want overnight success.  The truth is, our character and potential are determined by how we deal with the obstacles we face.  

It is in these moments that we can take it one step at a time, towards the fruition of our dreams.      Beth Allen

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When nothing seems to help, I look at a stone cutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it.  

Yet at the hundred and first blow it may split in two. I know it was not that blow that did it, but all that had gone before.      Jacob Riis 

How About You? 

1. What helps you persevere, when you want to give up on a challenge, project, relationship, job or dream?  

2. What do you find as a source of strength, during difficult times? 

3. What quotes or principles spur you on, when times are tough? It would be great if we could share ideas that can inspire one another. 

     I'd love hearing your answers.