Thursday, November 28
Wednesday, November 27
The Biggest Day for This Inn Arrives Tomorrow 11/27/13
How are you?
Thank you for dropping by this inn of encouragement and praise. What thanks have you? Of all the days of the year, tomorrow will be
Tuesday, November 26
Boundaries: A Sanity Saver 11/26/13
Good evening everyone, I'm bumping this up. I wrote this in July of 2011. Let me know what you think.
Saturday, November 23
Friday, November 22
A Wonderful Morning. The Innkeeper Is Checking In 11/22/13
Wednesday, November 20
Sunday, November 17
Thursday, November 14
Life's Vicissitudes, Not All Are Bad 11/14/13
"Be aware of wonder. Live a balanced life---learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work ever day some." Robert Fulgham Image: "Switzerland: Autumn In the Mountains" by Tim Blessed. Copyrighted photo. Use by permission. |
Twenty minutes ago I woke up from a long nap. Wow. Life has been an amazing oppor-tunity for applying balance. I've encountered insanity by others, no, not with my clients. It was balanced by
Tuesday, November 12
Celebrating Life and True Friends 11/12/13
A good friend is hard to find, hard to lose and impossible to forget." Image: "England: Norhamptonshire-Harvest Path" by Tim Blessed. Copyrighted photo. Used by permission |
Saturday, November 9
The Brightening Power of Joy In a Darkened World, Including The Property of Our Mind ...........11/9/13
Joy is the bright spot within our mind when we're surrounded by the darkened world of difficulties. It is attitudinal, not externally based upon circumstances. See below. |
Gratitude for Negative People
1. For enjoying peace, even when relating with difficult, moody, gloomy people, and I'm not talking about clients. Unhappy others---the Eeyores of my life---highlight the benefits of
Thursday, November 7
God Does the Work, All We Have to Do Is Ask, Revised 11/7/13
I wrote this in July of 2011. Many of you may not have read it, as most of you were not around, back then. I updated it, along with the gratitudes. Please let me know your response.
Wishing you a great and grateful day, The Innkeeper
I'm grateful that areas in our lives needing improvement get better when we turn them over to God. Progress does not occur by working harder, or thinking positively, despite what the self-help books proclaim. Sorry,
Wishing you a great and grateful day, The Innkeeper
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I'm grateful that areas in our lives needing improvement get better when we turn them over to God. Progress does not occur by working harder, or thinking positively, despite what the self-help books proclaim. Sorry,
Wednesday, November 6
Freedom From Other People's Judgment, Revisited 11/6/13
I'm bumping this up, originally written 10/14/11
How are you? I'll get to today's subject in just a minute, after today's gratitudes. But first...........
"I have been young, and now I am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor His seed begging bread." Psalms 37:25 |
“When a person doesn’t have gratitude, something is missing in his or her humanity. A person can almost be defined by his or her attitude toward
gratitude." Elie Wiesel
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A Provision Perspective that Promotes Peace
In this weak economy many are anxious about their financial security. I realize that neither my income nor my job are the source of my provision:Monday, November 4
Where the Innkeeper Has Been and a Review of the Past Month 11/4/13
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Quotes from the Posts
"I'm mindful that our thoughts affect the words we use, our words influence our actions, our actions shape our character and our character determines our destiny."
From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.
"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."
From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post written. To read it, please click here.
"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.
"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."
From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post written. To read it, please click here.
"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
From the post: "Life Is Not a Correspondence Program." Click here to read it.
"Even though we cannot control our circumstances, we can control how we choose to respond to them."
From, "Handling Stress and Dealing With an Emotional Bully."Click here to read this post.
"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"
From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.
"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"
From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.
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