Boundaries: A Sanity Saver 11/26/13

    Good evening everyone,  I'm bumping this up.  I wrote this in July of 2011.  Let me know what you think. 

She's not opening her
mouth for a dental checkup

         It was a dramatic day, today.  I prefer avoiding them, when possible.  An intriguing conversation with someone I almost did business with, took place this afternoon; thank God for intuition---we need to
trust it.  Glad, I am, that I did.

         A woman pressed me----expected me----to do a favor for her. Twice she asked me, while leaning into my personal space, to complete a financial transaction with her.  It would "really help me out," she said.  I did not answer immediately. I paused.  That's better than reacting, giving in to her pressure.

         What was shocking was I didn't even know her. The setting off the red lights on my discernment dashboard, prompted me to say no.  Everyone is responsible for their circumstances.  It's not my job rescuing others, especially when are forcing me to do so.  You know what that's called, right?  Yes, manipulation.

        The problem with being treated this way is that we are not allowed  to make choices.  We are not allowed to be an adult.  Choices are a basic right for adults.  Having my free will definitely meets my need for autonomy, safety, harmony and peace of mind and soul.

        For more about that, click here for a great review of what is our responsibility, or rather, what isn't.  I'm not interested in pleasing unpleasant people.  I don't have "stupid" or "abuse me" tattooed across my forehead.

         We are not "nice", when giving in to pushy individuals.  We are scarring them. Did you know that?  We are empowering them to continue their bullying.

My Gratitudes: 
1. Knowing it is not my responsibility to take on other people's problems. We want to be responsive to, but not responsible for other people's struggles.
2. For discernment.  I have it when pausing instead of reacting to pressure.
3. I'm grateful for not giving away big chunks of myself, to please people I don't even know.
      Because I am bonded to supportive others, detaching from manipulators is easier to do.  Connecting is necessary, before detaching is possible.
4. I placed principles and boundaries above a demanding woman.  I'm glad I adhere to my values and don't surrender them, when rattled. Some people may become upset when my values do not accommodate theirs. It is their responsibility, not mine, to process their disappointment.
5. Today, I stood in my power, personal growth and integrity.

    I'll leave a related link. Click here.  The second half of this post helpful when not knowing how to respond to a taxing situation.

How About You?