shaking my head or pinching myself in disbelief, while witnessing the goings on that happen every other Tuesday night. Am I dreaming?? Am I transplanted back to the 60's? It seems like it.
Many shared they get triggered by the other participants. I don't. Several mention how they find anger boiling within them,
I'm not. I use boundaries. I am NOT codependent. I don't get triggered. Ever. That's right, ever. No one can make me happy, sad, or have any other feeling, unless I give them permission to do so. And I don't. I use recovery, making me not as emotionally vulnerable or invested, in a good way.
Other people's feelings are their property. Mine are mine. Although others may not like what I have to say, they will have to handle the disappointment, not me. I am thankful for the joy and peace of mind I have because I speak my truth, gently and respectfully. I say what I mean, mean what I say, but don't say it meanly.
After the meeting, the instructor approached me,as I slipped on my shoes, to leave. She said I had "presence." That's odd, because she usually cuts me off or corrects me. She even hugged me. This was the first time when she didn't correct me during a session.
It is almost shocking, being in this environment. I don't believe in using judgment, which is what the participants do, all the time, in addition to using blame, shame, uncontrolled anger or guilt, a recipe for disaster. Those qualities run counter to my nonviolent communication training. Tonight was an example of what happens when these forms of Life Alienating Communication are given reign.
1. For safety during a long, one-day trip.
2. For speaking my truth, even if I differed with everyone else, like I did tonight.
3. For knowing what I want and don't want, when relating. The class I attend in Sebastopol has made this clear.
4. For having a word with the woman who was twitching, angry and wounded tonight. I asked if she was an INFP. Yes. I knew it.
5. For seeing the humor in a sick situation, a form of detaching.
6. For Anne standing up on my behalf, every week. It met my need for inclusion and respect, my presence recognized.
7. For not letting those attending tonight to define me nor yielding to their pressure, that I must be upset or fearful. I wasn't, and let them know it. I had equanimity.
8. Deep thankfulness for boundaries. They are a sanity saver and peace producer.
9. There were nine hundred and fifty-five views today and more than a thousand yesterday. Thank you, for dropping by. I am glad this place is meeting the needs of many.
10. This is the first time in more than a month that I attended the workshop without being singled out by the instructor and corrected. I could get used to this.
How About You?
What are your three gratitudes? Please, let me hear yours.