Can you think of a better way of starting this year than considering your gratitude?
Friday, December 31
The Vision of This Inn.................... 12/31/21
Staying On Topic, Not Letting Someone Change the Conversation 12/31/21
That is a control pattern. It usually reveals a person skilled at avoiding issues. We validate their point if we get caught up with the tangent they pre-sent.
Happiness Is a Choice............ 12/31/21
"As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he." Abraham Lincoln e-choed this sentiment when he
Thoughts to Ponder as the New Year Is Upon Us............... 12/31/21
Happy New Year!
The following was posted last year on this date. The ideas still ring true today. May they encourage and inspire us as we usher in 2022.
Here's the post:
The New Year is upon us. It could not come soon enough. Seeing this year in the rear-view mirror gives us perspective.
Looking Back at What 2021 Taught Us.................... 12/31/21
The year coming to an end. Time for a review of what transpired in the last twelve months, in this Age of Covid. Shall we begin?
Wednesday, December 29
Being Careful as to Whom We Relate With..................... 12/29/21
Friday, December 24
The Focus of Tomorrow................ 12/24/21
I welcome this Advent season. Thank you for dropping by. I wish you a time of serenity as we draw near to the date celebrating
A Christmas Angel 12/24/21
At a loss for words, my breath taken away. This video produces
Wednesday, December 22
Second Favorite Christmas Story.............. 12/22/21
How are things going for you? I re-main very grateful. I leave a Christmas story I wrote for this inn, my second fav-orite. I hope it makes
Monday, December 20
Good Will Awakened in the Midst of a Killing Field on Christmas Eve................... ..................12/20/21
WWII photo of the Ardennes Forest |
Wednesday, December 8
Better Relationships, Using the Feedback Formula............ 12/08/21
The Feedback Formula provides peace of mind and healthier relationships.
Tuesday, November 30
The Source for Happiness................ 11/30/21
Instead, being thankful makes us happy. No more significant boost to life than being filled with gratitude. In prayer, simply saying "Thank you" of-ten expresses more than long-winded orations.
Thursday, November 25
What Makes Us Happy Today and Everyday.......... 11/25/21
Dear Guests to the Attitude of Gra-titude Inn, I reso-nate with the message in today's illustration.
I appreciate today's focus: gra-titude. Each home in the United States
Wednesday, November 24
The Antidote to Frustration and Self-Loathing...... 11/24/21
Wishing every-one a Happy Thanksgiving tomorrow. Many suffer from worry, and multitudes endure the crip-pling power of depression.
Frustration, self-loathing are the plight of many.
An Attitude of Gratitude coun-teracts these ills. Tomorrow is the central day of this inn. May this Thanksgiving Day be your best.Cherishing loved ones, counting our blessings are
The Thankful Life We Have When Knowing Recovery 11/24/21
Sunday, November 21
A Surprised, Calmer, Happier and Less Reactive Innkeeper............ 11/21/21
So many experi-ences when I met my sister yesterday.
We hadn't seen each other for a long while, and getting together met my need for con-nection and self-ex-press. We celebrated life together.
Our time also met my need for downing a margarita. Ahhh!
Sunday, October 31
Young, Again 10/31/21
Thursday, September 30
A Month Filled with Gratitude.......... 9/30/21
Gratitude swells within for the ever increasing joy and sense of ease I had this ninth month of the year. The key elements asked for letting go and humility.
Wednesday, September 29
Facing Fear... 9/29/21
Tuesday, September 21
Being True When with Others and Gentle with Ourselves......... 9/21/21
Last Friday, I took a break from my crowded schedule. Stuart and I enjoyed the day together.
Tuesday, August 31
The Innkeeper Flew Off a Cliff ............ 8/31/21
"God's man is immortal until his work is done." Kenneth Wuest
It is clear and fortunate God still wants to use both of us.
Wednesday, June 30
A Helpful Perspective That Reduces Tension, Fear 6/30/21
Gratitude I have for it. An emotional lifesaver, a worry reducer.
Two days ago, I lost my wallet. Several credit cards, my driver's license, and other items that allow me navigate everyday living. A couple of weeks ago, I left it at a 7/11 convenience store, when
Thursday, June 24
Drama on Father's Day, the Solution 6/24/21
Monday, May 31
An Overview of Acceptance. Using Recovery, We Thrive............ 5/31/21
The Dictionary Definition of Acceptance
There is the dic-tionary definition of acceptance. It is akin to resignation. "I have to accept or resign myself with the fact my wife or husband is control-ling." Or, "I have to accept that my rela-tionship with a loved
Friday, May 21
Doing Backflips 5/21/21
One experience took place after being genuine with someone wanting my
Friday, April 30
Emotional Sobriety: Having EQ......... 4/30/21
Thursday, April 29
My Buddy, Part I 4/29/21
I am reintroducing an old post.
It has been seven plus years since I've dusted off this story and shared it here. It is about a friend-ship that reaches a tender part my heart and nurtures it beyond mea-sure.
I found it in the dusty bins in the library of this inn of gratitude. It is among my favorites, awakening emo-tions each time I revisit the series posted above as "Buddy of Mine."
I cry good tears. Every time.
Friday, April 16
Innkeeper Ruminations 4/16/21
With each day, my life is becoming more re-laxed, com-fortable.
Sunday, April 4
What Is Easter? ... 4/4/21
This holiday is not about bun-ny rabbits, chocolate candy, pastel Easter eggs, or baskets. Nor is it wearing fancy clothes to church. The original mean-ing of today is about Christ overcoming death, spiritual and physical.
A few years back, I saw a commercial touting Buzz Lightyear bal-loons for Easter. I like Buzz Lightyear. But Easter has nothing to do with celebrating the icon of a computer-generated movie.
When attending a Humanism and Mysticism class in college, there were students not familiar with Adam and Eve. So, for those not sure about the meaning of Easter, it is about Christ's resurrection from death. With what I write, please take what you like, leaving the rest.
Christ made many claims. One was that he was the Son of God. He staked what he taught on one test.Roman soldiers were posted at Christ's tomb. They guarded it---under the penalty of death---if they failed. They were to prevent anyone from stealing his body. The Jewish rulers asked the Roman governor Pontius Pilate to assign this guard, aware of Christ's claim.
On Sunday, three days after Christ's death, his tomb was empty. Shortly afterward, Jesus appeared to more than 500 witnes-ses. He over-came death.
On his shoulders, while hanging in agony on the cross, the sins of mankind were placed. He died for me, for you. Sins----past, present and future were paid for, through His sacrifice.
2. I'm thankful for the spiritual power available when relying in His strength. In mine, I am can't live the life I want, nor overcome my struggles. I have known the power of his resurrection for more than thirty years. It helps me overcome calamities and gives a peace that transcends the darkest of my circumstances.
3. For Christ ri-sing from the dead, more than two thou-sand years ago. He overcame not only physical death but spiritual death as well: depression, sadness, anxiety, guilt and shame.
4. I'm glad that all who call upon him, can share the same experience as the multitudes who believe in Christ. Anyone who does, will discov-er an amazing relationship with him. We move from knowing about him to knowing him in a loving, gentle, personal way.
Saturday, April 3
The Beginning of Greater Happiness and Personal Strength ................ 4/3/21
It feels like yesterday, but seventeen years ago, on this day, April 3rd, I began my journey with recovery. I attended my
Wednesday, March 31
Moving at a Rapid Pace Beyond Routine, Loving Life.................. 3/31/21
Saturday, March 27
Making Time for Me 3/27/21
Writing lets me self-express, something I was not allowed to do as a child or adol-escent. So I am overjoyed whenever voicing my opinion. My need for autono-my, choice, and independence are met.
Friday, March 19
The Healing Power of Patience and Awareness............ 3/19/21
Being patient towards ourselves.
An ongoing process, but, boy, it calms us down. We are being gentle towards both the good parts of us and the areas where we want to grow.
It helps to be lenient to-wards our mistakes. Instead of condemning ourselves, we possess greater peace of mind.
Condemning my imperfections has never en-hanced my appreciation of life or helped me to love myself more. Courage to Change, p.19
Accepting ourselves, including our vulnerabilities, reveals emotional maturity, the result of recovery. No matter how much we try, we will never grow beyond being human beings.
Saturday, March 13
Today Is A Big Day 3/13/21
I'm older. Hopefully wiser. Tend-ing this place stretches me.
I've grown in expressing my
Sunday, February 28
An Overview of Thanks, Creating a Better Today...... 2/28/21
Saturday, February 27
Lessons Learned After Relating with a Negative, Critical Person................... 2/27/21
A project I finished yester-day.
I did tasks I don't care for: it involved facts, figures, and sum-maries. Not my typical work. Seven hours
Thursday, February 25
Empathy Is More Important Than Being Right.......... 2/25/21
Someone confronted me yesterday.
Initially, I was alarmed. That rarely happens. No, not about being disturbed, but about being confronted.
This client said I was speaking loudly. I am known for my soft-spokenness.
Thursday, February 18
Celebrating Life: Seizing Moments of Joy....................... 2/18/21
No, I'm not in bed, even though it is a few minutes after midnight.
I met with friends tonight. It met my need for connection and community. It is in our relationships we devel-oped our distorted think-ing and it is through healthy relationships we
Sunday, January 31
The Source for Peace of Mind During Life's Storms............ 1/31/21
Was it needed. So many things hap-pening that I must make time to look out for my inter-ests. That includes peace of mind, ease,
Quotes from the Posts
From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.
"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."
From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post written. To read it, please click here.
"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"
From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.
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