Friday, October 3

The Joy of Being Threatened....... 10/3/14

I love the skyscape.  Image: "England: Northampton
-shire: Summer Day" 
by Tim Blessed.  Copyrighted
 photo.  Used by permission. 
      This week, someone threatened me.  It helped me see where my source of joy lies.  It wasn't the area he threatened . He touched a place where I was vulnerable as a kid. I don't let others determine my moods or define my reality. 
      This person's behavior left no doubt about his character. No way in heck will I befriend him.  He's entirely unsafe.  He does not respect others.  Instead he tried using the hammer of fear to motivate.

      This person tried intimidating. We wanted to drag me into the alley of fear.  He thought he could mug my serenity.  He was hoping to rob me from the joy that is a strong part of my life.  He is controlling: trying to manipulate an outcome.
Or keep on liking you. 

      That's insulting.  I don't take lightly, being treated like a child.  Fortunately recovery lighted up the alley.  My equanimity was untouched.

        He was not loved as a child. His past did not pollute my present.  Meanwhile, he remains an unhappy man.  Conscious and aware people look for other conscious and aware people to relate with.  He isn't one.


   The following are my highs for the week that ends tomorrow:

1.  Surprises from God.  Good ones.   People wanting my services.  Delighting in great times with others.  I like making my life count.   Nothing of value is gotten cheaply, without struggle and sweat.
2.  For a life that continually improves.  My life grows richer, by the day.  Sometimes by the hour.  I am happier than I have ever been.
3.  Knowing God.  I appreciate His love.
4.  For balance.  In spite of being buffeted by many competing demands, I take care of myself.  I made time.  I  watched the playoffs for major league baseball.  I love the San Francisco Giants baseball team. They are playing in the postseason.
5.  Creating new material for clients.  I empty out my thoughts on paper.  Clients enjoy taking home material that helps them.
6.  I met with a terrific client. Our time together is a joy.  We speak the left-handed language, we both being lefties.  Right hemispherically oriented, we are.  I walked him to his car, when the session was done.

   Before we parted, he asked for a hug, right there, on the street. That made my day.  :->  I love authenticity, com-passion and connection with others. What an amazingly excellent, positive bookend to the crappy one I had at the beginning of the day, with the guy who threatened me.

How About You? 
What were your highs? 


Superman said...

Dear Innkeeper,
This left-handed superhero appreciates your sincerity and is happy to know your day ended on a positive note.
While most of the world continues it's inauthenticity and assuming insanity as normal, the rest of the few appreciate the small tokens in life: a loving gesture, a kind word, a hug, or just plain, honest conversation.
When these things do happen it is like a shooting star in the night sky. As our visage focuses on the night sky with awe, or amazement, we recognize that when a star pierces through the night sky, it is just a tiny fraction of the sky, which is the infinite love that we already are.

Thank you for your authenticity!

Pablo said...

Dear Superman,

What you bring up is a subject often overlooked. Our culture focuses on the outward, neglecting character.

Shakespeare echoed your sentiments. "How far that little candle throws its beams! So shines a good deed in a naughty world." Merchant of Venice, Act 5, Scene 1.

Our world would be better if we had more Supermans like you. Thank you for keeping me company.

Did you have any high points for the past week?

Superman said...

My high points were:

1. My middle son's soccer practice where I had a few moments of meditation.

2. After mass this morning, I took my two oldest boys to the temple/chapel at the Holy Sepulchre Cemetery. There we shared a few moments of silence, as we could a woman's faint, yet sweet voice singing a familiar hymn.

3. Admiring the new Moreau High School stadium. I especially was happy to see discus and shotput rings installed in the grass turf. It brought back memories of throwing the shot and disc back in high school. Such misunderstood, beautifully technical sports. A truly lost art form.

4. Took a much needed three hour nap today. Those of us who serve others MUST take care of ourselves.

5. Reading old letters from close friends thanking me for the impact I made on their lives. I miss them dearly, but recognizing the most important lesson is to let go and recognize that God's love is everywhere, and that God is taking care of them.

Have a great week!

Pablo said...

Hey Supe,

It must have felt good, getting away from the hectic nature of suburban living, slipping in meditation, providing yourself with tranquility and peace of mind.

Your description of of the graveyard scene with your sons sounds like something from a movie, perhaps "To Kill a Mockingbird." Have you thought about buying a discus or shot put and giving it a go, like old times, way back when? I think it would be a fabulous form of somatic therapy. Really.

I am impressed with the balance you create----taking a nap, one of the best ways of caring for self. :->

Once again, Tony, you make my day with your comments and insights. Thank you, for the visit. I look forward to seeing you again, soon.

I plan on having a "super" week. ;->

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