"Life is a great cycle of cause and effect. Everyone makes choices every day, and everyone's
choices affect others. The combination of everyone's choices and the effect those choices
have on others makes the world what it is.
"Every problem can be traced to some unloving or selfish choice someone made. These
errors are the major cause of problems in the world today---selfishness and lack of love.
People either don't see how their wrong choices affect others or they don't care enough
to do things differently." This lovely caption is from Tim Blessed, the photographer of
the image above and of many that have become the windows of this inn.
Image: "England: Cumbria-Country Road Bridge" Copyrighted photo. Used by permission
Recently, a client of a few months came to emotional charged inaccurate conclusions. He was triggered because I had sessions with his wife. Get this---he referred his wife to me. He expected me to react to his fears. He believed I was taking her side.
His excited imaginings reveals emotional baggage. Mental chatter prevents him from being present. He could not see reality: objectivity is central to what I do. Drama was avoided. Yielding to this client's pressure didn't happen.
It is always preferred, placing principles above personalities. Fearful, exaggerated behavior serves no one. Submitting to it leads to chaos. Giving in to strong emotions creates unpredictability. No longer are we living by principles.
We are led by a seesawing perspective. We are surrendering to an agitated person. Usually this is someone who disregards our needs and feelings. We want to see their behavior for what it is: manipulation.
Upset people do not want us to make decisions based on what is right. They want us to make decisions based on their reactions to our values. That is placing personalities---the agitated person's----first. No can do. Recovery is not giving in to the pressure of unpleasant or disturbed people. To do otherwise is codependency.
Gratitudes for Today
1. I was inspired by a talk I heard this morning. I like the clarity it provided about making decisions.
2. I rested today. It helps me thrive and balance my intense weeks. I don't care to burn out.
3. Last night's conversation.
How About You?
What are your gratitudes for today?