Saturday, July 29

Tested, Not Found Wanting................ 7/29/17

Take a guess. Who is the colorful penguin? 
     Good evening.  How are you?  I'm resting today after an intense week.

     I did something different over the past four days, in-between seeing clients.  I negotiated with someone on the East Coast.  It required
patience.

     More than I thought I had.  The outcome is not clear---yet.  It was interesting, observing my feelings while working out details with this man on the other side of the bargaining table.

     When this started, I was not sure how I would react to his persistent demands. He tantalized me with an amazing offer.  It did not deter me from my values.

     Because I was internally referented. I am a penguin of another kind.

    I didn't react to his relentless pressure.  In the face of it, I stated what I needed, exercis-ing boundaries.  I marched to the beat of the drummer of recovery.  Because I did, he blinked first.

     The whole time while bar-gaining, I listened to recovery's measured beat. Because I did, I was gra-cious, but firm. I was kind but assertive, while being pushed.

      I listened to what my soul felt and wanted.  Adhering to boundaries is liberating.  They define us.  They let others know who we are.  They  remind us what we cherish.

      It is important being edgy people.  It prevents others from steam-rolling over us with their agenda.  With recovery, we learn how to assert our boundaries with gentleness, and a warm smile.

      My time spent with Mr. East Coast revealed who I am: a clear-thinking person when pressured.  I am comfortable with discomfort.  I can sit with pressure, when pushed.

       I no longer react with child-like responses when facing a crisis.

       Challenges do not trigger me.  Instead, because of my recovery, they bring out the best in me: fear is replaced with courage.  Instead of demonstrating tantrums, I enjoy emotional maturity, I rise above any emotional storm I have with another.  Instead of being befuddled during stressful times,  I enjoy clarity regarding my priorities.

       Tough times are oppor-tunities to self-express.    We can enjoy presence of mind when pushed: we can check in with ourselves, determining our feelings and what we want.

       During such times we can express ourselves calmly. We say our no as gently as our yes.  We can be affirming while asserting ourselves.

       Codependency no longer has to rule over us.  Like it did when we were young. And when that happened, back then, it sabotaged and deflated the joy and deeply satisfying life our Higher Power had in store for us.

        With recovery, we enjoy life freed from insecurity.

        No longer do we live in the margins of our life.  It is distaste-ful, feeding upon the emotional leftovers received when we are passive. We pre-fer the just desserts enjoyed when we are affirmingly assertive.

        With personal growth---recovery---we know what we want in life. We do the hard work necessary to thrive with emotional, spiritual abundance.

        This week was fulfilling.  I am thankful for listening to the drum-mer I heard, stepping to the beat of recovery, however measured or far away. 

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Quotes from the Posts

"I'm mindful that our thoughts affect the words we use, our words influence our actions, our actions shape our character and our character determines our destiny."

From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.

"Progress not perfection, is better than no progress at all, especially when we're trying to rid ourselves from unwelcome dragons that dwell within the closets of our soul."

From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post
written. To read it, please click here.

"Worry does not empty tomorrow of its trouble, but it does empty today of its strength"
From the post: "Life Is Not a Correspondence Program." Click here to read it.

"Even though we cannot control our circumstances, we can control how we choose to respond to them."

From, "Handling Stress and Dealing With an Emotional Bully."Click here to read this post.

"Nope, being busy isn't exciting. Boring is good. Because boring is not boring; boring is being healthy, living a balanced life that has serenity"

From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.

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