Monday, February 13

Authenticity, Revisited ............ 2/13/17

     How hard it is, genuinely relat-ing.

     It is sensa-tional having heart-to-heart connection with someone, where we are accepted. What a joy it is, being seen for who we are.  Our weaknes-ses are revealed and we are loved nonetheless.

      Expressing vulnerable thoughts.  Scary idea, saying what we feel, letting others know what
we want.  Doing that seems like going out on a limb.

      Revealing what is happening within, requires emotional resiliency.

      Often, we fear the opinion of others.  Seeking to please, we sacrifice our values.  We are not ourselves.

      Our authentic self is sacrificed upon the altar of public approval. We measure our status by the applause received from others.

      Or, we measure ourselves by what we've done.  We may think power validates us, whether this at work or in our relationships.  We imagine controlling outcomes demonstrates success.

      It doesn't.

     That's an empty perspective.  Nothing is further from the truth. Our lives are enhanced when we live honestly, enjoying a life balanced with truth, grace, and joy.
      What is the point of lying, to maintain a relationship?  Pre-tending to be someone we are not poisons our soul. We are not being present.

     We need to be present to truly live.

      Preferred, is be-ing ourselves.  If we have to be more than we are, in order to be loved by others, we want to bless these individuals.  And send them on their way.

     God's gift for us, they aren't.

     Those God sends our way love us.  As we are.  He gives them to us for free. They will have our back.  I agree with the following:
We long for the feeling that we are okay just as we are.  We long to feel relaxed.  We long for the courage to live with integrity.   
We long to reconnect with our authentic self---that sense of uniqueness and originality that comes from deep inside.  It is independent of others expectations
When we have the courage to show up as we are, we discover that we feel more deeply connected to oth-ers.  It's paradoxical.  When we are fully expressing our one-of-a-kind selves, we also feel more kinship with all the other one-of-a-kind selves in the world. 
Why? Because when we are fully self-expressed, we become free of unfinished business and are able to be fully present to others.  
Self-expression leads to feeling open, available, trust-ing, and relaxed; all things that lead to feeling con-nected to others. 
                         Susan Campbell, Getting Real, 73-74 
How About You?   How do you want to be more authentic when relating?

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Quotes from the Posts

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From "My Character Determines My Destiny." To read it, please click here.

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From, "Still Learning" which, within four days, became the most popular post
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From the post: "Life Is Not a Correspondence Program." Click here to read it.

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From, "Handling Stress and Dealing With an Emotional Bully."Click here to read this post.

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From: "Do You Know What It Means If You Are Too Busy?" For more, please click here.