|"If we want compassion, we must be conscious of the words|
we use. We want to speak and listen from the heart."
"When we keep the spot-light on the other person's feelings and needs, we sup-port their per-sonal growth. Their motiva-tions will come from a desire to connect rath-er than to please others, being rewarded or avoid criticism.
"We also support others in evaluating for them-selves how well they are meeting their needs, rather than encouraging that they look to others for their evaluation.
"Celebrating successes is an opportunity to connect with another. Instead of offering an evaluation such as "Great Job" or "You're smart," empathize with the feelings and needs that are met for the person you're relating with: 'Are you glad because you solved the problem?' "
Marshall B. Rosenberg
What ways do you encourage others? Do you like it when someone says, "Good job," to you? Is it just me being finicky? When someone says that to me, I feel as if they've put themselves in a one up position. I don't like that. Nor does anyone have the right to do.
Thank you for dropping by. May you have a great week. It can be busy. If we don't know our focus.