Thursday, August 25

Perfectionism, Procrastination, Paralysis ........ 8/25/16

      When it comes to any effort, I do my best. 

        And I leave the results to God.  "My best for today is good enough."  I've learned
perfectionism is a disease and "Easy does it." Have you heard of the three P's? They are perfectionism, procrastination and paralysis.  

        These three responses are a regression.  Instead of our circum-stances or project improving, they worsen, if we live by them.  Per-fectionism usually leads to procrastinating.  If we stall enough, we can become paralyzed, overwhelmed, because the problem has grown, due to our inattention.   
        This emotional disaster happens when principles are overrun by the vulnerable areas of our personality.  We let fear, anxiety or resentment rule our emotions and good intentions.  You get the idea.  

         I find the following helpful when I am tempted with perfectionism:
I have yet to meet an absolute perfectionist whose life was filled with inner peace. The need for perfection and the desire for inner tranquility conflict with each other.  When-ever we're attached to having something a certain way, better than it already is, we are, almost by definition, engaged in a losing battle.  
Rather than being content and grateful for what we have, we are focused on what's wrong with something and our need to fix it.When we  are zeroed in on what's wrong  it implies that we are dissatisfied, discon-tent. 
Whether it is related to ourselves ---a disorganized closet, a scratch on the car, an imperfect ac-complishment, a few pounds we would like to lose---or someone else's imperfections------the way someone looks, behaves, or lives their life--- the very act of focusing on imperfection pulls us away from our goal of being kind and gentle. 
This strategy has nothing to do with ceas-ing to do your very best, but with being overly attached and focused on what is  wrong with life.
                      Richard Carlson,  Don't Sweat the Small Stuff

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       Have a terrific Friday.  Keep looking up,
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1 comment:

Thumper said...

Hi Pablo,

I used to be a perfectionist, but now I am being much gentler with myself. What Richard Carlson (whom I love to read by the way) said about perfectionism and inner tranquility being in conflict with one another is so very true. I find that when I let the perfectionism go I am much more peaceful and happy.

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