I know this is the opposite of what we experience while gearing up for Christmas.
But, many of us need to process the holidays. This time of year usually involves interacting with others. Often, it means encountering disturbing people, people frantic because the true message of this season has escaped them.
Or many will visit with difficult relatives not seen any other time of the year.
When with them, there can be the combustion of clashing person-alities. Or unpleasant shared history creates friction, awkwardness. These challenging aspects of the holiday season motivate us to make time.
For ourselves.
Feeling and processing neg-ative interactions is critical. It helps us maintain emo-tional balance, equanimity.
As children, we may not have been allowed to mourn. Being in touch with our feelings when disturbed is being present. It is what it means to be alive. It is important for our sanity.
It helps us overcome crazy-making times when relating with others who trigger us.
When we stay in our head, we distance ourselves from what we experience. When we feel, we are the experience. We are in touch with what we want.
What causes us to not be authentic? Toxic shame. We believe if we present our transparent selves, we will not be accepted, loved. We fear being ridiculed for our values or having a different perspective.
What is the antidote for shame? Enjoying unconditional love and acceptance from the good company we keep. These are our Balcony People.
My Gratitudes:
1. For the ongoing growth of the happiness that fills my life.
2. I am thankful for sleep. It restores my mind and body.
3. For fantastic conversations. They nurture me. I love heart-to-heart authentic conversations. They meet my need for connection, closeness, and transparency.
Wishing you a terrific Tuesday. I know mine will be.
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