Taking Risk, Enjoying the Benefits

     Good evening everyone, I found this laying around in the attic of this cozy inn.  I'm bumping it up.   Let me know your thoughts.

Here it is:
      I hope you are enjoying your day.  If not, you are at the right place.  Having an Attitude of Gratitude helps.  It moves us forward.  For more information, read here.  It's best seeing what can be done and bask in the good, than living with regret and fear.  

       Fear is self-sabotaging.  Here are some thoughts about this subject.  May they help us face our fears and master them. 

Part of my growth has involved reversing some old ways of thinking.  It had been my habit of avoiding painful feelings and situations, to play it safe and keep away from risk.  But life involves one risk after another, and pain is unavoidable.  Life is learning to accept what is.

Instead of running away, I'm learning to look at the source of my distress.  As a result, I find that pain passes much more quickly, and what I gain is freedom from fear.  I can learn to take an honest look at myself and my situation.  I can reach out to a supportive friend, God, prayer, and meet with others who care to help me to find the courage to deal with fear, pain, and risk. 

When I was avoiding taking risks, fear was always with me, just over my  shoulder. Now I go through it and come out the other side, often unscathed. I no longer have to keep a constant watch for dangers.   Instead, I can occupy myself with living.

Wonderful things can happen today because I welcome the thrill of participating in my own life.

'Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure.  Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.'     Helen Keller

"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt."    William Shakespeare, "Measure for Measure", Act 1 scene 4

        These last words were spoken more than four hundred years ago.  They ring true today.  I see progress when placing principles above not only my personality, but fear. 

         This sometimes happen by living life in smaller increments, like fifteen minutes at a time, placing one foot in front of the other, doing what's necessary, seeking God's will. His power allows me to carry it out.  Next, I B-R-E-A-T-H-E !  I repeat this routine for the next fifteen minutes,  and the next, and so on.

          It helps having friends and family who provide support.  Serenity is enjoyed because I no longer need to make decisions or take action alone.  I'm in braided relationships with wise, emotionally healthy and discerning others who have my back. 

          On the airplane of life, my dear ones help me move forward. I step out, taking the plunge, doing the next right thing, no matter how scarey it is.  My Balcony People remind me I have positive options. The parachute of principles hold me afloat, as I soar towards my goals.

 How About You? 
What is a challenge you are facing? 

        For me, it's dealing with someone who's trying to undermine me. I tackling this problem while maintaining balance. I don't want others to distract me from the Great Big Life God has for me. 

        May your day be bold and fearless.

Applying Grace and Principles Above My Personality 10/16/13

Yorkshire countryside. Lovely. Doris, you were fortunate. 

     Good evening.  The day was hot and so were several people who spoke tonight, when I met with friends.

My Gratitudes for Tonight:
1.  Tonight, I heard two women vent.

     They presented themselves as victims, expressing their feelings.  Actually, what was voiced were not feelings but judgments.  See here for more about that.  It was fascinating and saddening at the same time to behold this happening among a group of friends.

      I was glad to hear their complaints.  It allowed me to know their character, and note growth in mine.  Their comments revealed their worldview and values.  I'm not in agreement with them.  Their litany of accusations prompted discretion, patience, grace, causing me to place character above the vulnerable parts of my personality, including anger.

     After the meeting, two different women---a mother and her adult daughter---approached me. They addressed me because they felt I was the safest person to discuss their concerns about what they heard.  That was a wonderful respite from the toxicity that was poured out by the two disgruntled women.
2.  I'm exhausted.  I'm tired because of long hours I'm putting in, working, seeing plenty of people.  It's a good problem, especially in today's rough economy.  I'm thankful for the abundance. However, I'm striving for balance, which means, sleep, rest, time for myself, study, prayer and then more sleep.
3.  I'm glad I don't accept unacceptable behavior.  Nowadays, there's confusion as to what are acceptable values.  I'm glad I'm clear about mine.

      Others don't have to agree with mine, at all.  But I will remain true to standards that I hold dear: consistency, nonviolence, consideration, mutuality, sensitivity, integrity, responding, not reacting, cooperation and affirming the gift of life and those I know.

      I show empathy, even with those I disagree---like at this evening's meeting----because I know that empathy does not mean agreement.  It simply indicates I'm connecting with the feelings and needs of the person with whom I'm relating, be he friend or foe.

Related Post: 
Maintaining Emotional Sobriety. 

Two Stories: One About the Elephant In the Living Room That Was Actually a Dog 10/16/13

Image: "Cumbria: Dalt Wood" by Tim Blessed
Copyrighted photo, used by permission. 

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition."

Steve Jobs

   Good evening. After posting this, I'll cycle, welcoming the new day, feeling the chill of fall while hearing the waves slapping the shores of the island town where I live.

     So many stories tucked within my soul, all of them

Gratitudes for Last Week And One Thing I Look Forward To This Week 10/14/13

      Good evening all.  It's that time again.  A new week has started.  I'll mix up my normal routine.   Usually I ask for your high and low points for the past week. Tonight, I'm asking, what were three things that happened last week that made you grateful, and one thing you are looking forward to, this week?

Calmness and Joy In the Midst of An Emotional Storm, Part II, Revisited 10/12/13

  How are you?

Today, I rested.  Was it needed. So many good things happen in my life, am I lucky.  I met with seven new clients this week.  Each session was amazing.  I love that I'm able to serve others, continuing my role as an innkeeper, assisting others, especially those mangled by abuse and self-loathing.

       I'm bumping up the following post,  written last year on the 10th of this month.  Let me hear you responses, I value your insights.  Here it is:

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      The past few months have been inspiring, a time of characterological growth and learning.  More importantly, its been a season where I've seen the value of

Improvements: Removing the Dross From Life, Revisited ............ 10/9/13

Refining gold, removing the dross.

     I'm squeezing in my gratitudes while I can, before the next day rolls in, claiming the title.

      This place provides a grati-tude journal for the visitors of this inn. I ask those who drop by, to sign the registry to this place by shar-ing three grati-tudes. It's easy to do, really.

      Would you like to give it a try?

My Gratitudes:

1. Met with a client today, the time we spent was powerful and rewarding.  I enjoy seeing progress.  I'm happy helping others deal with long-term issues, many stemming from childhood.

      I love seeing others celebrating life more than they ever have.

Making the Most of Life Requires Effort..................... 10/8/13

     Good morning,

Yes, I'm up early.  Monday's do that to me.  The most demanding day, they were---until this week.  Now, today will be

Highs and Lows 10/6/13

       Good evening,

As most of you know, on the weekends it's the custom of this inn for us to share our high and low points for the previous week.  Here are mine.

My High Points
1.  I am disappointed with

The Life Changing Power of Affirmation 10/4/13

     Good morning. I'm bumping this up. Now that fall is here and school has started, I thought I'd share this, written more than two years ago.  After this story I have a request.  You'd make a happy innkeeper if I heard from you. Yes, you.  Here's the post:

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       How are you?  Have you thanked someone today?  Who is someone you are grateful for?  Can you think of anybody who believed in you

Small Wonders, Not Going It Alone and Expressing Our Feelings 10/1/13

      Welcome to my guests.
Gratitudes for Today:

1. Delighting in a fantastic lunch with a friend, was one of yesterday's pleasures.  It wasn't the food, that was terrific, it was the