Creating a Better Today, Especially When Struggling, Revisited .............. 7/6/16

       Beyond pretense.

      A friend of sever-al decades-----a Bal-cony Person of mine, and I lunched.  This was our topic. The growth enjoyed when  facing  vulnerabili-ties. We talked about overcoming our weaknesses by re-placing them with
healthy alternatives. The following are a few suggestions:

      I. If we're angry:
          A.  We can go for a walk
          B.  We can process it by writing about it in our journal.
          C.  Go to a local sports event and scream like the dickens.

     It is a socially acceptable place to yell.  Fans next to you will think you're amazingly fanatical.  I have a dear friend in her 70's who does this. She goes to the Cal Berkeley basketball games.

         D. We can listen to relaxing music, to decompress.
         E. We can release our frustrations out by beating a pillow or throwing rocks in a body of water.
         F.  Anger reveals we're experiencing an unmet need. We can take action to resolve the unmet need by taking one step that allows us to empty out.

      For example, say that we're with someone who is judgmental.   And we're uncomfortable with their put-downs or how they blame us for their problems without taking responsibility. We can excuse ourselves:

"I'm sorry, but I have to go. I have something pressing that I need to do."

     No, not ironing a shirt.  Yes, we do have something to do. It's leaving that environment.  We don't need to be with someone who suffers from the toxicity of a bitter spirit.

      It's necessary if we want serenity.  If we want to reduce the level of drama in our lives.One source for sanity is being responsive to, but  not feel responsible for the feelings of others.

II.  If we're isolating, we can:

    A.  Call a friend, see how  they are doing. If we want to have friend, we need to be one.
    B. We can go to a movie with some-one. We are con-necting with others.  Not only with the friend, but the com-munity watching the film with us.  It's a step.
   C. We arrange a time to have lunch with someone special.

III.  If' feeling blue, we can:
    A. Go for a hike in nature. It lifts the spirit for many.
    B. Listen to music we like.
    C. Workout at the gym.  You probably know hard exercise produces endorphins, which are great for our moods.
    D. For some, chocolate does the trick, it has serotonin.

       The above are a few examples of healthy alternatives.  You prob-ably can add more.  You get the idea.

        We may not have control over our circumstances but we do have control over how we choose to respond to them.  We have many op-tions, healthy ones that are life affirming.  Difficult times remind me of the following quote:

       The only time we'll not have conflict is when we're dead; learning to process the challenges life offers is prefer-red to the alternative; I find a coffin a little confining.

       When we make healthy choices and take action to-wards solving our problems we'll find ourselves happier. Life will be more sane.  We'll enjoy life more.  We'll also have an attitude of gratitude because we're making the most out of our lives.

       We are creating a better today.

How About You?
1. What are some additional alternatives that you find to anger, isolating, depression?
2.  What is one step you'd like to take today, that will move you towards the solution of your particular challenge?

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