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| Sometimes we yield to emotional people. We want to have empathy, but we also want to be
true to our values.
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It is a few minutes before seeing a client. I wish you a terrific New Year. It's coming soon.
I am reflecting upon my experience this past Tuesday, Christmas Day. I spent it with family. I received saddening news.
My response was heartening, revealing
plenty: I connected with the person's feelings, relating with his needs. I also stood for values and feelings important to me.
That's a delicate tight-rope to tread upon, finding balance in relationships.
Tuesday, I connected with his comments and val-ues. I asked what could I do to make things easier for him. That was followed by stating my need for hon-esty. Transparency is essential for healthy, dynamic relationships.
I spoke up about issues important to me, too.
"What can we do so that your needs and mine could both be met?" I asked. "What type of relationship do we have if we ignore what's alive within us, if we are not honest when relating?" I inquired. He understood.
It is empow-ering having empathy while not ignoring what is critical in our relationships.
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Later today, I have unpleasant business to do.It will be a matter of placing principles above the weaker parts of my personality. We have to go through the pain of better behavior for us to experience wholeness. Maturity is not bought cheaply.
I wrap up this post by leaving my gratitudes for today. I'd love hearing yours.
My Gratitudes:
1. For being tired. It is a wonderful signal that I need to slow down, even catch a nap. I'm planning on doing that today.
That's terrific!
3. I love the work I do. I am glad being of service to others. It is deeply satisfying helping others become the individuals they want to be.
How About You?
What are your gratitudes? I'd love hearing them!
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