November's Letter from the Inn

     Hi there, friends and guests,

Thank you, Lisa, for dropping by. It was good hearing from you the past few days. I hope your hand gets better.

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     I have a fire going for my guests, the weather is a bit nippy. Let me know if you need one of the afghans my mother made.  If you stand up and walk to your left, and peer through the windows, 
you'll have a terrific view of

Recovering from the Holiday, A Happy, But Busy Innkeeper

“Gratitude is the memory of the heart.”
Jean Baptiste Massieu

It Is Never My Responsibility To 11/27/11

"Amidst the constant turmoil and drama that surrounds us, as we live life, many
stop noticing what is going on with themselves.  Something more important and 
life threatening always seems to intervene.  When we acknowledge a situation as
 it is, we want look at our options instead of looking at the options available to
other people."   Courage to Change, p.359

The following are general principles from Al-Anon Family Groups. I'm sure they
 will help when trying to figure out our responsibility in our relationships with others. 

It Is Never My Responsibility To: 

G

ive what I really don’t want to give

Sacrifice my integrity to anyone

Do more than I have time to do

Drain my strength for others
Listen to unwise counsel

Remain in an unfair relationship

Be anyone but exactly who I am

Conform to unreasonable demands

Be 100% perfect

Follow the crowd

Please unpleasant people

             Bear the burden of another’s misbehavior

Do something I really cannot do

Endure my own negative thoughts

Feel guilty towards my inner desires

Submit to overbearing conditions

             Apologize for being myself

Meekly let life pass me by

Letting Go......... 11/27/11

                                                                                                                  

T

o let go doesn’t mean to stop caring:
       it means I can’t do it for someone else.

  To let go is not to cut myself off:
       it is the realization that I can’t control another.
  To let go is not to enable: but to allow learning 

         from natural consequences.

             To let go is to admit powerlessness,
                 which means the outcome is not in my hands.

     To let go is not to try to change or blame another: I
         can only change myself.

     To let go is not to care for, but to care about.

     To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

     To let go is not to judge,
                 but to allow another to be a human being.

     To let go is not to be in the middle           
                 arranging outcomes, but to allow others to
                 effect their own outcomes.

     To let go is not to be protective:

                  it is to allow another to face reality

     To let go is not to deny, but to accept.

     To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue, but to 
                          search out my own shortcomings
                  and to correct them.

     To let go is not to adjust everything to my 
                 desires, but to take each day as it comes and 
                 to cherish the moment.

     To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone, but
                 to try to become what I dream I can be.

     To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow 
           and live in the present.

     To let go is to fear less and love more.  

A of G Alphabetical Inndex

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A Spiritual Awakening, What It Looks Like

Acceptance and Difficult Others—An Answer to Thag 4/21/11

Aim of All Guests of This Inn

Reflecting On Gratitudes This Thanksgiving Day 11/24/11

Good morning everyone, I'm tuckered out. I went to bed late and woke up, early. I'm grateful, though. This is the central day of this inn. I leave the following  passage with you. I appreciate what she writes. I echo her sentiments.  

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      Happy Thanksgiving to one and all! Here's hoping you will have bounteous tables, full of turkey and all the trimmings (or your family's favorites) and a good time had by everyone. For those of you who are missing a loved one this year, may your good memories sustain you through the holidays, and help to fill the emptiness.

The Focus of Thanksgiving Day and Freedom from the Corrosive Power of Bitterness .....................11/24/11

       Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

How are you? This day is fantastic----its focus is what this inn is about.  I like this holiday; enjoying it with family and friends appeals to

Perspective is Everything, Not Just for Photos and Paintings

     A mindset is a set of beliefs or way of thinking that determines our behavior and outlook. Consider the anecdote about the
two shoe salesmen who went to Africa. The first wrote the home office saying, "Nobody wears shoes here," and turned in his
resignation. The second was thrilled with the potential, and wrote, "Everybody here needs shoes!"

Let Me Know If I Can Help

Love is like a precious plant. You can’t just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it’s going to get on by itself. 

You’ve got to keep watering it. You’ve got to really look after it and nurture it. (John Lennon)

The Innkeeper Experienced Drunkenness of Another Kind (Also, Wrestlings Within the Writing Innkeeper)

Victory and happiness don't come when everything in your life is peachy. They are the results of living more in the realm of the
supernatural than the natural. You're happiest when you choose not to allow the things of this Earth to get you down, when you
choose to rise above. There are no limits to the happiness you can have in life once you've learned to rise above. Obstacles are for
overcoming!  (Image: "Peak District: Between a Rock and a Hard Place"  by Tim Blessed. Copyrighted photo. Used by permission.
Caption is his, too.)

       Good evening everyone,

I'll get to my being drunk in a minute.