tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post7560385814748592499..comments2023-05-15T19:42:05.251-07:00Comments on The Attitude of Gratitude Inn: An Unusual Week 7/6/13Pablohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17963540433054608632noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-66275721898777895172013-07-23T06:45:51.006-07:002013-07-23T06:45:51.006-07:00Theresa,
In what new ways are you loving God and ...Theresa,<br /><br />In what new ways are you loving God and respecting yourself?<br /><br />And, how have your expressed your feelings, recently?<br /><br />Thank you, for dropping by, reading and commenting!<br /><br />A curious innkeeperPablohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17963540433054608632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-4839271492755798152013-07-23T06:42:21.586-07:002013-07-23T06:42:21.586-07:00Dear Carl,
Thank you, for your answers. I wish m...Dear Carl, <br /><br />Thank you, for your answers. I wish more people knew what you're learning about anger. <br /><br />I'm in agreement with you: connecting with God helps us to respond and not react. I'd also add that bonding with emotionally healthy others assists us, too. We learn from their wisdom and example. When caught up---emotionally---with an issue, we need the psychological distance our friends provide.<br /><br />Having our voice, not only is satisfying, but we experience dignity, too. Expressing what's important to us is standing in our power, recovery and integrity. It is self-validating, which is always a good thing.Pablohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17963540433054608632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-72994623185217383832013-07-08T13:45:34.764-07:002013-07-08T13:45:34.764-07:00My gratitudes for this week.
I am grateful for s...My gratitudes for this week. <br /><br />I am grateful for some simple direction from a book that I am reading. Love God, ourselves, and others. Trust God, ourselves, and the process. Clear, very clear. I like that. <br /><br />Self respect is a theme for me this week. I am feeling grateful, feeling that I am gathering more inner strength, substance and depth. <br /><br />Also, a quote for this week that I am appreciating. "When I face adversity and deal with my problems or express my feelings, things have a chance to improve." Courage to Change, p 139. Yahoo.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16922483584625513153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-15603589868219154772013-07-06T22:55:37.056-07:002013-07-06T22:55:37.056-07:00Dear Pablo,
Thank you for your thoughtful respons...Dear Pablo,<br /><br />Thank you for your thoughtful response to my Thursday post.<br /><br />1. I've learned that Anger is the "idiot light" on my emotional dash board, and that I need not be ashamed of my anger; its OK to be angry. Anger is not the problem, but rather how I respond/react in anger; how I express it. I need to be in touch with my feelings, but be thoughtful and wise in how I channel it for the good; for positive, healthy change.<br /><br />2. My take-away from the Wednesday night meeting was that I can't do it alone. That I need God's help to acquire more "reaction time." Help to remove my shortcoming of knee-jerk, angry reaction; allowing myself to be triggered by a loved one who is acting out of their disease; their addiction.<br /><br />3. Picking apricots is inspiring because we have had no apricots for two years, and now we have too many! Inspiring because it is sweet, delicious fruit freely given by God for our joy and nutrition; what a gift!<br /><br />4. Finding my own voice with my adult sons feel great! I've begun the process of expressing my needs by re-establishing with him the healthy boundaries we, and he needs to adhere to for our, safety, security and serenity. He will visit no more until he can admit/own his transgressions, and make genuine amends.<br /><br />With others I'm learning to say my no's as gently as my yes's, and that no can be a complete sentence. I'm also learning to share my observations, feelings around that, needs and make requests in ways that are sincere and not off-putting.Carl Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18168412345145927553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-1118225369305551962013-07-05T11:00:55.239-07:002013-07-05T11:00:55.239-07:00Dear Carl,
I'm impressed. Your desire to gro...Dear Carl, <br /><br />I'm impressed. Your desire to grow is motivating. I like how your life is getting richer, I've noticed this over over the past year and a half. So, what's your perspective on anger, now? What value do you see in it, if any? <br /><br />What principle(s) were you able to take away, after meeting with friends on Wednesday? <br /><br />What was gratifying about picking apricots; you have my curiosity. It's encouraging, reading your description of the soul-touching conversation you had with your wife. You must have felt good, after your time with her.<br /><br />How does it feel, having your --voice---letting your son know what needs of yours were NOT met by his behavior? How are recovery principles helping to strengthen your relationships with others<br /><br />A curious and concerned innkeeperPablohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17963540433054608632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-65559681269355311892013-07-04T18:01:53.933-07:002013-07-04T18:01:53.933-07:00Keith, thank you!
I was able to change my passwo...Keith, thank you!<br /><br />I was able to change my password, because of your help. <br /><br />That makes me grateful.Pablohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17963540433054608632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-75702985590478925392013-07-04T17:29:42.907-07:002013-07-04T17:29:42.907-07:00Vanessa,
Thank you, glad we could connect, it w...Vanessa, <br /><br /><br />Thank you, glad we could connect, it was a delightful time, allowing me to know you better. <br /><br />I'm thrilled to see your three gratitudes. Boy, does that make me happy! Please remember to dance, that's so good for you!Pablohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17963540433054608632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-14614623273464177592013-07-04T13:44:10.200-07:002013-07-04T13:44:10.200-07:00Dear Innkeeper,
On this "hot as a firecracke...Dear Innkeeper,<br /><br />On this "hot as a firecracker" July 4th, I am grateful for;<br /><br />1. A productive and meaningful mentor-discussion last night about "making a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself;" specifically exploring how to better deal with repressed and/or inappropriately expressed anger.<br /><br />2. A rich and moving circle-gathering with friends in a back-yard, ceiling-fan-cooled Alameda cottage. We shared our experience, strength and hope around "Humbly asking Our Higher Power; the God of our understanding, to remove our shortcomings." I shared about being triggered by #3 son, reacting to his rage-aholism, and how I need to work on that.<br /><br />3. Picking fresh apricots in the cool of the early morning.<br /><br />4. My wife spotting and plucking that one, plump if slightly withering, very early purple fig we could later share (with apricots) on our cereal.<br /><br />5. Having a day off from work, and time for a long, much needed back-yard, soul-mate chat about, among other things, how I can better "cherish" her in private and in public.<br /><br />6. Time to catch up on some volunteer and non-profit email communications re; upcoming events.<br /><br />7. Volunteering to wash an uninviting accumulation of dishes, pot's and pans, that fell on my wife's dish-day today.<br /><br />8. That our currently petulant #3 son could stop by unexpectedly just now to offer an initial, feeble if at least a first-step, apology for his recent acting-out. However, "Sorry did not do it, you did..." Beyond a cheap, convenient and unacceptable apology he will need to make amends; reflect on and admit what he did wrong, and figure out what he needs to do "to make it right." I will write him an old-fashioned letter with a few hints on how he can go about this.<br />Carl Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18168412345145927553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-78450962245739031132013-07-04T06:50:21.897-07:002013-07-04T06:50:21.897-07:00Pablo I am sorry to hear that your account has bee...Pablo I am sorry to hear that your account has been compromised. Here is a link on how to change your password. I hope this helps! http://www.ehow.com/how_2015868_change-blogger-password.htmlOptimistic Existentialisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11507986337866049924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-69039465928339789182013-07-04T05:58:05.734-07:002013-07-04T05:58:05.734-07:00Love you Pablo! Great talk!
I am grateful for a ...Love you Pablo! Great talk!<br /><br />I am grateful for a job where I can make fun educational videos. Who else is as lucky as me?<br /><br />I am grateful that I have connections to so many insightful, good listening people that help me with talk therapy.<br /><br />I am grateful to be away from my ex husband and his abusive behaviour.Vanessa Higginshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06147840385968556263noreply@blogger.com