tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post7396070760329887153..comments2023-05-15T19:42:05.251-07:00Comments on The Attitude of Gratitude Inn: The Seventh Characteristic That Prevents Having a Safe Relationship 9/13/14Pablohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17963540433054608632noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-78597263050293060452014-10-18T21:09:05.822-07:002014-10-18T21:09:05.822-07:00Dear Cool Breeze,
What a powerful post! Thank yo...Dear Cool Breeze, <br /><br />What a powerful post! Thank you for dropping by, reading and posting. I hope to hear from you again. <br /><br />Good for you, not yielding to your vulnerabilities. I hope you have a supportive network that can uphold you as you go through transitions in your life.<br /><br />I was impressed that you stayed true to your values. You placed them before your attachments, always the best thing to do. <br /><br /> Wishing you the best of friends and the serenity you seek and deserve.Pablohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17963540433054608632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-181730000844317612014-10-10T21:45:11.270-07:002014-10-10T21:45:11.270-07:00I'm guilty of romanticizing in relationships i...I'm guilty of romanticizing in relationships in the past. I seen the positive, optimistic and potential and often was hurt later. I forgave things easily but was gullible too. I thought that all people deep inside wanted a strong compassionate loving and monogamous relationship. I was unaware that this stirred up muddy waters. A saying that has helped me neutralize and ground me is "It is what it is". It's helped me be present in the now. Last Tuesday I did something very hard for me. I Broke up with a girlfriend for the first time without a terrible event. Hurting her was very very hard. I listened to the trembling inside that told me she wasn't safe for me. She tried to convince me that we were great and so good together and I was so close to giving in again. By the grace of God after 2 hours I stepped into my car and drove away with two little people on each of my shoulders talking in my ear. The little red guy was saying " you're gonna be lonely,she's warm, you won't find anyone else,etc". The other little guy was saying "you are doing the right thing, she's not safe, you won't ever feel like this if she was the right one, you would feel at peace without doubt". Before I reached home I had mentally stepped away and let them fight among themselves. Now, my thoughts have room to opened with creativity. I have ideas to relieve me of a very turbulent time in my life. I'm grateful that I treated myself with kindness, respect, care and I thought of myself as if I mattered inside and out. -CoolBreezeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-36064596050554074272014-09-15T19:03:31.539-07:002014-09-15T19:03:31.539-07:00Dear Jane,
I am inspired to write for guests of ...Dear Jane, <br /><br />I am inspired to write for guests of this inn when I see comments like yours. What are you finding that helps you overcome passivity? <br /><br />What steps do you want to take to improve how you relate with your husband? How does it feel having insight into areas, where not long ago, you didn't see anything wrong? What has helped you to improve your perspective? <br /><br />Thank you, for your comments. It is encouraging dialoging with guests from this inn!Pablohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17963540433054608632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5944766913433542786.post-21283881976688170322014-09-14T04:01:53.359-07:002014-09-14T04:01:53.359-07:00One blockage that I'm currently working on is ...One blockage that I'm currently working on is passivity.This has been my default mode ever since I was a little girl growing up in a dysfunctional home.Where my parents couldn't for the life of them relate authentically to each other.Much to my horror,I have continued this dysfunction in my own marriage without even realizing it... until now!<br /><br />Jane G.YorkshireAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com